Do love songs make you wistful?

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Even in high school, certain love songs would make me wistful, thinking that maybe I wouldn't find a girlfriend, let alone a wife.

Maybe in the back of my mind I've idealized Angela, the girl I mentioned in an earlier thread. But, I know we had a good friendship, and as I've said before, if it's going to work for an Aspie, even more so than for NT's, the way it's going to work is with a boy and girl who have been in school since Kindergarten together,w ho are friends,a nd who know all of each others' quirks.

There are reasons I won't mention why I don't pursue a friendship Angela now, having discovered her e-mail, etc.; I don't think she'd want revealed some of the problems she had with bullies, etc., before she moved away. Suffice it to say we'll meet again in Heaven, I'm sure of tht now, and maybe that's the reason God had for letting me find her e-mail in the first place, so I'd have that assurance.

However, in high school and beyond, I've found it a mystery to even know how to approach women. THe few I have chosen have all been too interested in their own careers after a while, and I'm too shy to really ask anyone out at our church. Well-meaning friends have looked for me, but they haven't found any prospects, either.

So, some of those lines - "whatever happened to old fashioned love?"; ANything from "Through the Years" by Kenny Rogers (which I always requested on my grandparents' anniversary); and a few others that speak of a true, loving relationship make me think - is "the kind of love that my mama and daddy knew" really that hard to find? Maybe it is, by the huge problems even NT's have. And that gives me some solace, to know I'm not the only one.

But, a relationship needs to be built on a close friendship, trust, understanding, honesty, and so many things other than the physical attributes. And yet, the way society is, it seems like that ideal has just vanished.

The only positive from this is that it's vanished for NT's, also - it's not just an Aspie thing, I don't think. But, that means society itself has lost something very special. The kind of love my grandparents had, the kind that was sucha deep friendship they knew what each other was thinking, it seemed, they were always so close. I lived with my mom and them for years at the start of my life, and throughout their lives, you could tell.

Sorry, I got kind of off track there. But, maybe that last shows why I think I get wistful at certain songs. Not becase of something I lack, but instead something that society lacks. Because, it does seem like I've always been a lot more mature about such things than most people, able to sense those little things.

Do they ever!
one song in particular i think its richard marx
"Wherever you go, whatever you do, i will be right here waiting for you"

I used to hate cry in my beer songs and love songs, mostly because they reminded me of how alone I felt and was for many many years, of how much of a screwup I felt to be for not ever seeming to be able to get into a real relationship let alone keep one once I had found one.

I still don't care for many of those songs, like why torcher my self with the thoughts and feelings they produce, but others I find my self enjoying now that I had not enjoyed before, basically because now I am with a girl that seems to really matter and make a difference in my life and understands me, someone that I can love and loves me unlike anything I have seen or thought I would ever find or found before. it makes a difference, and I got me a rare worthwhile find. I would be a fool to let her slip through my fingers, and she is Aspie just like me, it makes a huge difference compared to trying to relate with NT's.

Before I met my wife, I hated love songs because they made me feel bad, and because most of them were just terrible.

My wife really likes love songs, so I have learned to live with them.

One of the worst turns music has taken is the change from love songs to lust songs. I do not know if some recording stars understand the difference.

I couldn't have put it better myself re: love songs to lust songs. The only stations I listen to are a Christian station and anoldies one that only plays stuff up to like the '80s, and only soft stuff. Nothing lustful.

I guess maybe one reason I still like such songs is because it makes me think more of how society as a whole has gone downhill, not just my own life. And, maybe that's related to how there are more lust songs nowadays.

Of course, I only get wistful at them, I cry when singing songs in church like "Because He Lives" and "What A DAy That Will Be" - but I know NT Christians who do that, too.

Not really, but certain songs do remind me of past relationships. I still can't listen to certain parts of Bad Boy Bill - Bang the Box 3 or House Connection 2 just because the context of where and when I was listening to that gets me a bit choked up.

As for a lot of love songs themselves, I don't know if it's just me, but a lot of em have alsways had a certain scandelous twist to em (quite often about cheating, longing to cheat, etc.) - that tends to irritate me a lot.

I really don't care for love songs at all. There are a few I can stand, but mostly because the describe some quirky relationship, or is otherwise differient then the standard love song. But if its your standard sappy song, its not for me.

I have lately been getting away from songs that have an emotional attachment towards the lyrics, and generally like instrumentals now.

Same here as well. My dream has been to be a wife and mother, nothing dramatic, but I so often wonder if *anyone* could possibly put up with me well enough to marry me. I listen to mostly christian music and christian radio, but I do listen to nonchristian music without negative themes or swearing. Clay Aiken's CD makes me cry every time I hear it(whitch is often, I play it all the time) I want someone to love me like that so badly.

If you think about it, the majority of songs are about love, sex, hooking up or drugs.

(apart from Cristian music and stuff i've never listened to it)

I don't like hardout soppy love songs, I just find them annoying. They don't make me think anything about wanting a partner, because I don't want one.

But alot of songs remind me of people and parts or instances in my life.

I like songs that aren't about Love, usually. But it is possible to have a great rock song.

love songs make me feel sad inside and wishful at the same time like i wonder maybe there is a girl out there for me

I have a strong love for love songs as songs (especially 80s soft rock love songs)

On days like Valentines Day when I am alone, I put em on and they raise my spirit.

As for wistful, sometimes they do. All depends on my mood.

yeah, but then i would listen to songs about how love sucks and i would feel a bit better
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"Wherever you go, whatever you do, i will be right here waiting for you"

I do that on piano...it is what won me the only true technical girlfriend I ever had.

All the f*****g time.

Love songs serve no purpose other than to remind me that I don't have a girlfriend...