Alcohole, peer pessure and big mistakes in love

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Last night was very embarassing. Im warning everyone what happens when you try to fit in on someone elses terms not yours.

I have removed my real profile picture as i dont wish to be identified. Ok. Last night my youth grop and I went to a youth central club. There was swearing, alcohole, to many people, lound head banging music i felt so insecure in that area and myu friend kept on saying lets get drinks but i told her no my doctor told me not to. In the girls bathroom a group of girls cornered me and said (please excuse the language) your F****** hot, go and f*** some guy tonight and then they all laughed at me and i ran out of the bathroom. I thought i wasent affected but than i started feeling bad so next time my frien went for drinks i did to.

Very stupid indeed!! !

I drank on an empty stomack first of all
Secondly I am not a drinker at all so the amount i drank got me so drunk i cant even remember parts of the nights but i remember feeling very ill and over friendly. Some guy took advantage of this. I tongue Kissed a random guy and i cannot tell anyone just how ashamed i am. All my friends were watching they got me away from te guy to prevent anything elese from occuring. They sat me down and some hours later I woke up and told them not to tell anyone or my parents. Im really scared that the guy's friend took a picture of it and is going to put it on the internet.

Im feeling really guilty but luckily my freinds accepted my apologies and understood it was the drink and not me. I am not ever going to a night club ever again im so embarrased and shocked at myself. I think i might have been druged as well because the guy made me sip his drink.

whilst it is not a good thing, dont feel too bad, i think this happens to most people at least once. it happened to me a few months ago & scared me as i was behaving like someone else & not me. just try to learn from this to avoid it happening again if this is not the sort of person you want to be. i went out with the same set of people (that i went out with the time i got drunk) again 2 weeks ago & did not touch alcohol all night so this just shows it was my own fault i got drunk that time & it is possible to avoid it. it is just difficult as we try to fit in with the others it leads to us not being ourselves sometimes & this makes us unhappy, or at least this is what i think!

What you think sally is valid and welcome thanks

I'm not going to say anything since I have a very negative view on drinking in general(But I'm not religious, I'm atheist).

I pretty much think you got what you deserved. You are lucky your friends were their or else you might have ended up in some random hotel room without any clothes on and next to some 40 year old guy named Jimmy.

YEAH, THATS BAD.

did i say anywhere that i was proud of it? no.
I have never ever in my life gotten drunk before this was a very frightening experience ok. Your words reflect how i feel right now STUPID!! ! I hate drinking as well I dont know why i diddent say no maby it was how over welming the whole situation was. I am religiouse and i feel like i might burn for this all i can now is hope for Gods forgiveness

Well; I've never meant anyone in my entire life who has a stronger mind than I do.

Peer pressure does not apply to me since I have never had any reason to conform.

Please don't feel stupid.
Are you going to do this again? It doesn't sound like it. Did you learn at least a lesson from this? Also, I think, true. Stupid would be if you didn't learn a lesson from it.
For example, I went through YEARS behaving like this, and fathered my quite possibly Aspie son because of behavior like that. In other words, i didn't learn for quite some time...
So, again, Lonelybonesey, PLEASE don't feel stupid.

I don't think you should be ashamed. Everyone makes mistakes and this wasn't that big of a mistake. In fact, it's something that happens to most people. So what if you kissed some random guy? it's nothing to be ashamed of. Some people have made much worse mistakes. At least you have the friends to make sure you're ok.

Next time drink responsibly, however, as you can do serious damage if you drink enough to black out on an empty stomach.

The memory loss can be caused by the amount of alcohol, or from being drugged. TBH, you're really lucky your friends were watching out for you.

Last edited by alex on 07 Dec 2007, 6:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That is you Brian and i admire that.

all my life have longed to fit it and i never even dreamed i could do what i did last night. My friend felt guilty cause she had been nagging me all night to drink. She wanted me to be more relaxed as i insited on staying outside cause i am a very quiet person usally and i did not trust myself around people im very guliable and easily mislead. I tend to take things to heart or literally especially in diar circumstances. I have faults i know,

Don't feel guilty for giving in to peer pressure. Everyone learns from their mistakes. That's the best way to learn.

to you Duncanbass: thats very sad what happened to you thankyou for sharing something so personal it must be hard. I have learnt a lesson and i know i cant trust myself i need to remove myself from these situations.

To you Alex: You seem to know what you are talking about. Im very grateful to my friends i know if it haddent been for them i would have done those much worse things and regretted it for the rest of my life. I think this experience has taught me to be a little less sensitive and trying to fit in.

If you wind up drinking, never do so on an empty stomach. Even someone with a high tolerance will notice a big difference on an empty stomach. You should never feel like you have to drink, and it also isn't the best idea to drink because you're feeling poorly.
More than that, if your doctor said not to drink, you really need to keep that in mind. If you are taking any medications, that can also have an effect on your ability to handle alcohol. Asking your doctor for more information wouldn't be a bad idea. While I was taking SSRIs, it only took me a small number of drinks to be drunk. Off of them, I was able to drink most people under the table. Other side effects are also possible.


In some ways, this is a good thing, when compared to all of the things that could have happened.

Do you remember whether or not he had any of it before and after you did? Never advisable to accept a drink from someone you don't know well, best to get your own drink, but if he had some of it as well, then it is less likely that there was anything else in it.
Don't dwell on what happened, but remember it. If you wind up in this sort of situation again in the future, you will be much better prepared for it. Mistakes happen, don't get too down on yourself for making one.

I cant be quiet shore that he drunk it himself. maby he did. It must have been alcohole making me feel ill.

It was a little personal, but I felt very sad reading what you wrote, and I didn't want you to feel so bad. I hope you feel better.

You won't feel it at the moment but you're the luckiest girl alive. You could have awoke alone, horribly beaten and bruised, in pain and without any clothes on. If you learn from your actions then good on you.

Oh, and don't drink without getting some proper food down you.

Oh, and here's another tip: I don't do nightclubs. What's the point? They're for wasters who I have no time for. If you want a drink, get a six-pack in or go down the pub for a few.