where to go to meet your true girlfriend/boyfriend?

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01 Dec 2007, 1:37 pm

I used to think it was college. Now I learned that it was not the case for me. What other places are good for a relationship? On WP? Or dating services?

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01 Dec 2007, 1:39 pm

I think the friend-of-a-friend situation works well

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01 Dec 2007, 1:49 pm

Exactly, Basshead, my parents met that way!

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01 Dec 2007, 1:50 pm

I think groups like WP or any dating site would work. If you use the Net, you can more easily find who you want, and filter out who you don't want.

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01 Dec 2007, 3:40 pm

Basshead wrote:

I think the friend-of-a-friend situation works well

Agreed. That's how all of my relationships have started.

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01 Dec 2007, 3:52 pm

Basshead wrote:

I think the friend-of-a-friend situation works well

If I lived anywhere other than the town I live in now, I would consider this.

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01 Dec 2007, 9:49 pm

Dating sites work 0 for me, but that might just be because my town is just a hopeless, boring place.

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01 Dec 2007, 10:01 pm

I still don't trust the intarwebz for finding love.

My main idea for finding love is by finding someone in some sort of activity I participate in, and going out with her. That way, we already have common interests (and therefore something to talk about whilst on a date)

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02 Dec 2007, 4:00 am

I found my BF through a forum based on you know what. (Not aspergers if that's what ur thinking)

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03 Dec 2007, 12:46 am

This is something I wrote about this in another thread. Perhaps it will help a tiny bit.

JasonWilkes wrote:

Being an Aspie, I don't really ever have the chance to approach females in the "normal" context of parties, social gatherings, or whatever have you, since I tend to shut down around groups.
However, I was feeling especially misunderstood by everyone one night several years ago, and so I decided to try and meet someone new. I figured that the Barnes & Noble would be a good place too meet someone on a Friday night, given that if someone chooses to spend their Friday night in a bookstore alone, they're much more likely to be the type of person I would enjoy, as opposed to the generic bar-hopper, so I looked around and found an interesting-looking specimen who was browsing the history section of the bookstore alone on a Friday night, I forced myself to overcome the overwhelming fear of approaching her, and walked up and said:

"Hey, I feel like meeting someone, and you look interesting. What's your name?"

Less than a week later, we were dating.

Anyways, Barnes and Noble on a Friday or Saturday night is a good place to start.

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03 Dec 2007, 2:05 am

JasonWilkes wrote:

This is something I wrote about this in another thread. Perhaps it will help a tiny bit.

JasonWilkes wrote:

Anyways, Barnes and Noble on a Friday or Saturday night is a good place to start.

That's awesome! Kudos for using AS traits to your advantage.

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06 Dec 2007, 5:05 pm

sassyaspie wrote:

I used to think it was college. Now I learned that it was not the case for me. What other places are good for a relationship? On WP? Or dating services?

Anywhere, seriously.

If you're not too good with the ladies then a year signed up with a computer dating outfit will give you plenty of practice meeting members of the opposite sex. Who knows, something serious might develop, however...................

1. I met my first girlfriend at an open day at a local university. We were both in the queue to see the lasers in the optics lab, got talking, and were together for the next four months.

2. I dated a receptionist at a place I worked at for six months. We only got talking after I changed her flat tire.

3. When you go into a bookshop and a really REALLY pretty girl who works there asks if she can help you had better have a good answer. I did and we were together all Summer one year.

4. If you meet a girl on a regular basis during your bus trip to work each morning then do something about it. Offer her your seat, share your umbrella if it's raining or offer a steadying arm if the sidewalk is covered with ice.

5. Finally. If you go to a party and someone introduces his (female) cousin watch your reactions. I started to go weak at the knees and we're still together after seven years or so.

Carpe Diem is Latin for 'seize the day'. It means that if you see a chance you've got to take it, because if you don't then you're going to be playing 'what if?' for the rest of your life.

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07 Dec 2007, 5:34 pm

edal wrote:

Carpe Diem is Latin for 'seize the day'. It means that if you see a chance you've got to take it, because if you don't then you're going to be playing 'what if?' for the rest of your life.

Totally right. Try to avoid what I did - or rather did not. I was practising aikido, and there was a gorgeous woman. Somehow I said to her, "You are very enticing". Probably very abruptly, and I seem to remember her asking what I meant.
Anyway, later there were some occasions where she must have tried to give me a strong hint. But this is all in hindsight - I didn't have a clue then. My self esteem was so low after the army, that I just denied all the signs there (probably?) were.

So, I just have to think that she's better off without me.
Epilogue: over 10 years later, I told my therapist that perhaps I should mail this woman and try to clear the things up. She thought it was a good idea, so I emailed. I got a terse but friendly reply, so I think she doesn't hold a grudge. BTW, that was just before the therapist diagnosed AS in me, but this woman studied art therapy, so she may know anyway.

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10 Dec 2007, 10:56 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

I think groups like WP or any dating site would work. If you use the Net, you can more easily find who you want, and filter out who you don't want.

Tim

What's "WP"? I've never heard of that,unless by "WP" you mean "wrongplanet".

As for online dating sites I've had negative experiences with them lately because that's where the scammers are,same is true on myspace as well.I had my myspace profile set to dating/serious relationships & would get hit on by nothing but girls wanting to pimp their pornographic pictures,or the aforementioned scammers who want nothing but your money.

Now I end up deleting almost every single friend request I get on my myspace page these days because of it.

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13 Dec 2007, 1:55 am

I couldn't agree more, you've only gotta look on www.addforums.com where I've been a member of for the last 2 years now to see that love can happen.

Just recently 2 regulars got together and fell in love (they knew each other before joining ADDF) and it also looks like another couple could be forming soon...maybe, fingers crossed.

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Tim_Tex wrote:

I think groups like WP or any dating site would work. If you use the Net, you can more easily find who you want, and filter out who you don't want.

Tim

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14 Dec 2007, 7:53 pm

CrazyCatGirl wrote:

Tim_Tex wrote:

I think groups like WP or any dating site would work. If you use the Net, you can more easily find who you want, and filter out who you don't want.

Tim

Thanks for the link to that forum Crazycatgirl.

I'll also try the tips about going to Barnes & Knoble,they've got a Starbucks franchise there so I can grab a drink while I'm at it.

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