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LePetitPrince
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10 Dec 2007, 3:14 pm

I was eating alone in the company's cafeteria as usual because I usually eat lunch late , when a coworker(who's around my age) passed by to grab a fruit from the fridge , she looked at me and said : "Why you are eating alone?" then she paused for a moment and walked to the exit of the kitchen and continued " don't you know that who eats alone ...dies alone?".

I said to myself in my mind *and so what?* but I just said to her 'hmm?' and I pretended to be distracted by eating.


Why do you think she said that?



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10 Dec 2007, 3:23 pm

Social people often seem to find being less social awkward and/or less acceptable and guess she just couldn't hold it in?



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10 Dec 2007, 3:24 pm

She probably goes around randomly spouting cliches to everyone.



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10 Dec 2007, 3:27 pm

People say strange things. It's probably some proverb she heard somewhere. Who knows.

Or she could be serious, in which case it was kind of mean. But it's true that people find it awkward to be unsocial, and they expect you to be social too.


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10 Dec 2007, 3:31 pm

Most of society assumes that alone means unhappy, my guess would be that she is suggesting that eating alone now is a part of a bigger issue which will leave you lonely and unhappy forever if you dont do something about it now.

I, for one, am often at my most content when I am alone and dont have the pressures associated with socializing.


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10 Dec 2007, 4:19 pm

I would have taken it as a suggestion that you could join her and her friends tomorrow, should you so desire. The cliche was probably just an attempt to be somewhat irreverent.


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10 Dec 2007, 4:24 pm

because she is insecure
Did it ever occur to her that you may have wanted to eat alone.



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10 Dec 2007, 4:32 pm

Social extroverted people often expect others to act the same way. Especially girls, even if they are shy... they still don't want to eat alone.

Eating alone is kind of a sign of being a weirdo... eating for NTs is often a social event as much as it is about food.

I remember at my old job, we would all kind of wait for each other to finish our jobs before we all took lunch. It was just better eating with others... and you gain an acceptance. Shoving food down your face, is sort of a private thing... you are putting things inside your body. Sharing this act brings closeness.


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10 Dec 2007, 5:04 pm

At no point in her one sided labeling of you, did she ask you to eat with her, or join her and some friends to eat...she just made it a point to make sure you knew she thought you were weird for eating alone...she was being rude.
What are you supposed to do? Go seek out others who are eating and sit down with them uninvited? Bah
When you see her again, tell her there's a new scientific study that was just released in Stockholm, that people who eat together in cafeteria's often overeat and become overweight....( I made this up )
Honestly...these so called NT's and their so called normal behavior makes me want to puke....I can never, ever think of a good retort when someone makes comments like this to me...but if I have time to think and write it down, I can always come up with a good comeback....and a reply to their silly "head games" 8)



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10 Dec 2007, 5:41 pm

you should have said "Really? Because I heard that those that make insensitive comments to others die alone."

she was being rude



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10 Dec 2007, 5:59 pm

Is there a possibility she wants your attention?


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10 Dec 2007, 5:59 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
I was eating alone in the company's cafeteria as usual because I usually eat lunch late , when a coworker(who's around my age) passed by to grab a fruit from the fridge , she looked at me and said : "Why you are eating alone?" then she paused for a moment and walked to the exit of the kitchen and continued " don't you know that who eats alone ...dies alone?".

I said to myself in my mind *and so what?* but I just said to her 'hmm?' and I pretended to be distracted by eating.


Why do you think she said that?

She said that because she's disturbed by you being quite content with your own company and not requiring the presence of other people. There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely but she clearly hasn't grasped that yet. Anyway, everyone dies alone, regardless of how many people are around at the time. It's something you have to do by yourself - you should tell her that, although it may increase your weirdness quotient at work :lol:

She sounds insecure and threatened by anything outwith her apparently limited range of experience, which has made her react rudely towards something she doesn't understand.



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10 Dec 2007, 6:12 pm

I would have just said "Why the **** are you talking to me?" and gone back to eating...



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10 Dec 2007, 8:47 pm

I would have taken this as a sign that she liked you.



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10 Dec 2007, 10:26 pm

I once got into a fight on OkCupid with somebody and at one point she suddenly started spouting Cliches, it was really weird. Maybe it's the same person?

She could have said it for all kinds of dumb reasons.


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10 Dec 2007, 11:15 pm

To be honest, she sounds mentally imbalanced. :?

I mean...who the hell says that?!?