JohnHopkins wrote:
alex wrote:
no reason to be paranoid when she's the one paying for th ticket.
Er, no, quite the opposite. If they pay for the ticket then you don't have control over when you get home, and this ain't good...
See, this was what I was talking about! It is crucial that one has control over your own ticket just for that very reason. I mean, even if NOTHING comes of it, having control over your own ticket creates you being autonomous in your own situation. NOT having control over it always puts you at THEIR convenience, even if everything is benign.
When I went on dates with people known from school or church, my mother tucked a twenty into my purse called "mad money."(yeah, I had to give it back if I didn't use it!) It was for carfare (taxi or bus) fare home. You never know when things might go wrong, and having your own ticket just nips that issue right in the bud!
I sincerely hope my decades of experience might help just one person out there when it comes to this situation! Always have 'plan B'.
And it is not called 'being paranoid' it is called 'planning ahead'.
Merle