when is a girl your girlfriend after dating?

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If you date a girl when does she become your girlfriend after 3 times, or do you just keep going out together, but what if you are busy?

I'd have to say it's when you both feel you can continue seeing each other, and things have progressed from finding out if you like each other to both knowing it, and doing much more as a couple.

When you ask her and she says yes.

Most likely you will both have an unspoken expectation of monogamy before that point, but as a girl I prefer a guy to ask me explicitly rather than assuming.

Um, before the first date, I think. It's not really a date unless there's something there, but maybe you still have to make it official. I never really figured that out, but it was much easier when I got asked.

I always assumed it started right when one of three things happened (and was accepted):

1: One says "I love you" to the other.
2: One asks the other out.
3: The two have spent so much time together that they couldn't imagine being alone (much more rare than #1 and #2...)

There is no "generally accepted" time period for this. The time period will vary. In my first relationship, it was literally love at first sight (something I would later regret). My second relationship became a relationship eight months after she and I began corresponding (the relationship was long-distance).

A friendship becomes a relationship when both people agree that they want to be more than friends.

I like it when the other person makes it clear by asking me directly, "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" or "Would you like to go steady?" Most of the boyfriends I've had have asked that kind of question. It is usually asked a day or more after he says, "I love you," or, "I think I'm falling in love with you," for the first time. I guess that waiting a day or more is good because it gives both people some time to think about how they feel and what kind of commitment they want to make.

So, to summarize in the same style as one of the above posters:

1) Say "I love you," or equivalent
2) Pay attention to how she responds (how genuine it sounds)
3) If the feeling seems to be mutual, waiting a couple of days and then say, "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" or equivalent
4) If she says yes, she is your girlfriend.

This is just based on my own experiences.

I think it's when you've had a conversation with that person about how they feel about you being boyfriend and girlfriend, you know that it's exclusive and you're both serious about it.

I don't know. It just works out. And you're comfortable together. I have a lot of girl FRIENDS but only one that I love, even though we don't live together for the moment. We met in school, 17 years old, I just liked her and liked talking to her. I probably knew her for about two years before we realized it was serious. Originaly I met her on a school dance, where she was drunk as hell, but her friend I was looking out for originaly was even worse, so I ditched her in favour of my ex. Then we simply spent about the rest of the evening just talking. I didn't dare to call her next day, because she was probably having a hell of a hangover.

And she did have one hell of a hangover. She was going shopping after two days and had to ask her mother to hold her arm when crossing the streets, because she was still dizzy. Third day I called her, asked her to come to my town, and, I met her parents. And pesky brothers. I already knew all her family because she couldn't shut up talking...

Whe have a 19 year history as a couple and last two years as best friends, and we still don't know what's the exact love between us, I still pop by her, and she pops by here, we have keys to eachother and we simply call eachother when something feels wrong and we still can't figure it out why we're so comfortable with eachother... We intended to get married, but instead to my and her parents shock decided to split on us. This was partially because of having 3 kids with ADHD and 2 of them AS was killing me and my ex to the extent of breaking up for our kids sake. So we have a bounce living where at least one kid lives with me and the other two at her. Works great. I'm still her janitor in her house, I have my own weirdo janitor to fix things for me, and the kids just love it. We have equal walking distance to the kids schools.

I think that if I asked her to sleep over She wouldn't mind but we has so carefully arranged living that we just walk between us. But no more kids. When you have this situation with both one parent AS/ADHD and two AS/ADHD kids and One ADD/ADHD with HFA suspected, dyslexia, semantic and pragmatic language disorders and so on, We was the utmost incompatible gene pools to end up.

Baah.. I write too much.

Usually you need to have the "are we a couple?" talk. Or, just introduce her to someone as "my girlfriend" and see how she reacts...

The simple answer is when you guys update your facebook profile. All this "asking" / "having a talk" s**t is a little old fashioned.

Yes, but updating your Facebook profile is a bit dubious if it is not consensual.

The profile doesn't get updated until both parties approve...

That's how it should be.

That's the only way you can do it. You have to submit a request and the other person has to approve it.

Totally agree with you on that, Alex.