considering starting actively looking for women

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So after my first two rpomantic interests have gone bustoi've decided to atleats slightly try looking for someone as opposed to hoping to run into someone I like and havcre sucess with by chance. Besides I'm 21 and have only asked two women out and both shot me down.

so that being said any advice for an aspie male sorta dipping his feet so to speak in the dating world?

It's not worth anyone's time to actively look for a woman. Most are only looking for security and money anyways.

Do not repeat the above to women, it will cause most of them to stab you with their handbag.

Is that one of those things you're supposed to make one of those "white lie" things about while you're in the presence of women?

"looking for someone as opposed to hoping to run into someone"

Do both. Get out there and present yourself.
Just don't go into desperation mode.
Most people equate looking for a mate as being desperate.

Just keep your eyes open, and don't settle for something just because it's there.

Yeah,I've tried that route...especially with the girls down at Starbucks only to be told the classic "I already have a boyfriend" line so now i t's back to the online dating scene for me because I'm tired of looking.

ive noticed if i dont jackoff for awile i start to notice girls alot more, i guess its because biologically i want to get my rooster on. ive been talking to girls latley aswell, but im shure nothing will come of it because most of them are half way around the worlds

True besides I first need to get my drivers license soon anyways, at any rate ineed ot get out more than I do.

That's just based on horomone levels... beating off keeps them down, and in turn makes you notice women less...

It really works for me because then I don't have to be tortured by feelings for women that I can't get (which happens to be, well, EVERY WOMAN ON THE ENTIRE FRICKIN PLANET)

I share your frustrations 100%. I swear sometimes I want to just cut the darn thing off so I don't have to deal with it anymore.

I hear ya, going to starbucks to try to pick women up is something I've never tried. I have tried the bar stuff, but those ladies seem to be stuck up. Plus the music gives me a headache after about 30 minutes.

Going on a date with someone is tough. I went on a date with someone on saturday and that didn't go over well, i don't think. Today I told the girl i have asperger's and I think that was a bad move because now I think, she thinks, I'm ret*d or something. She does think i'm disabled and that was a bit offensive to me.