Men telling their women they will never leave them

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My boyfriend keeps telling me he will never leave me but I never believe him because he could change his mind one day and decide he doesn't want to be with me anymore and wants a normal girlfriend.

I know men say things to their women but don't stick with their word. I can remember Geoff not caring if I break up with him or not because he acted all cool about it by saying "It we break up, we break up" "If you want to break up with me, that be fine" etc. Then one day I break up with him and bam he is hurt about it so he lounges in his friend's mobile home not doing anything to move on with his life. He said he is just waiting till he sorts his life back out and gets over being sad before he looks for a job again. My mom thought it was bull and an excuse for him not getting a job.


So have any men ever told you they would never leave you and you be together forever and ever and then one day he decides to break up with you and leaves?

Yep.

And then he called me and told me he was getting married.
Ouch.

oh yeah

He will NEVER leave me.....He may cheat on me...he may do things that make it condusive for my leaving him...but he will never leave me....he will leave it up to me to do all the work of leaving....

Many people just say these sort of things, it's like a sales pitch. I don't trust anyone who gives such rigid statements.

The reality is that many say it mostly for the reaction it will get out of you, not because they actually mean it. They may even mean a part of it, he really has no intention of leaving you... but to say never... that's false.

If you know him for a long time, and have grown to trust him... then saying "I will never leave you" will be a very nice thing to say. But if you don't trust him, then well it's just words.

I think there is something instinctual about such complete statements like never, always, I will have it to you on Friday guaranteed ... it gives a false sense of control over the situation. A leader would say something like that, and the underlings would be happy... even if the leader doesn't exactly know what will happen. I think guys who want to be in control of the situation will often say "I will never leave you."

I just find it bizarre when men say things like that, especially when it's very early on in a relationship. I had someone tell me that after going out for two months. How did he KNOW? Or think he knew since I'm obviously not with him now.

I have said it and I when I do I mean it (honestly!) it has been said to me, by 2 girls, they are both with somebody else now and I am starting to wonder if I am believing in miracles, or just had some bad luck

It's hard not to say stuff like that. After all, how would it feel to hear, "Oh, darling, I really love you--for now, anyway."

I guess maybe some people say it when they already know they're not going to follow through. That's bad.

With my ex, we both said to each other that it was a 'til death do us part relationship, and we both meant it. We were wrong (she left me). So it can be said sincerely and still not work out, though obviously not everyone will be saying it sincerely. The thing is, people change with time, sometimes profoundly so - hence two persons that might have been almost perfect for each other can eventually become incompatible.

It's scary stuff. Sometimes I just wanna stay home in my tower with the covers over my head.

I'm sure he intends to, but love is the product of biology as much as emotion. I could promise to love someone if we would never change, but people always change.

A vow should last forever, even if people change. I think ultimately love has to be a choice, not a reaction to feelings... otherwise it's pretty worthless to me.

it's hard to live in the moment... it's bad to live in the past as much as it is the future sometimes...

they are lying ..... no can guarantee the future.