Do girls break boy's hearts INTENTIONALLY?

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Do girls flirt with the INTENTION to break a boys heart? Or do they just flirt and break hearts unintentionally? Is it some type of badge to break a boy's heart?

Flirting is just a form of play.

If it's breaking your heart, you're reading much more into it than was ever intended.

You know, I love girls, but I don't really like the idea of girls lying to us.

Girls want attention. If you get your heart-broken over meaningless flirting, then I don't know what to tell you.

Now, if she is leading you on big time, like crawling all over you, asking for your # and saying she wants to go on a date, and then when comes down to the date, she doesn't answer her phone, or whatever, that's rough.

But when your dating, you shouldn't just put all your eggs into one basket. There are going to be flakes, and the good news is, you found out who she really is without wasting much time.

Flirting isn't lying.

There's a married guy at work who I flirt with all the time. Doesn't mean he's cheating on his wife or that I'm going to sleep with him. It's just fun.

Yes, that's not flirting. That's beyond flirting.

Best advice for you is until you really know the person, don't leave yourself so vulnerable to such things.

What your doing is basically like a turtle flipping himself over to into a vulnerable state where his protective shell can't protect him.

well, we break women's hearts too, so I guess it all evens out. There are a few women out there with a score to settle, but it really depends on the woman you're talking about.

Just be don't go look further into a situation than it merits. Flirting doesn't mean much if anything. Just be happy you didn't really get lead on. And be happy you didn't have to go through an ultimately meaningless drama.

NT girls??? Or so I'm assuming... girls mature faster than boys do.... and Aspie's (and I don't know if this is true for other spectrum conditions) appear to mature emotionally at 2/3rd's the physical age... At 15, the boy would have approximately the emotional maturity of a 10 year old. NT girls are used to trying to flirt with NT boys, who mature faster than we do, but not as fast as the girls... it gets very confused for awhile when you're in those years.... I was 30 before I started to get a handle on things, which put me emotionally about 20... and looking back I think that was pretty much where I was. It's very tough to be a teen boy and an Aspie... on the other hand, we stay "young" in our attitudes and emotions for a long time. In some ways, as we get older I think we have more fun than the NT's do.

I hate that maturity myth, Dave. Seriously, that has to stop.

Girls flirting just for the sake of getting attention is both lying and immature. It is a waste of time which could be used for more productive efforts in finding someone with genuine interest in yourself, as well as for them. Why would someone deliberately waste what little time they have alive squandering it on people they are unwilling to pursue?

If it is unnecessary and inefficient, it must be eliminated.

But what if it's fun?

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Fun is only truly enjoyable if it isn't wrapped in a lie. Riding motorcycles may be an inefficient use of fuel, but I go because I know I enjoy riding, and I want to improve my skills. I don't play the role of some professional Baja rider to get attention, nor do I underestimate my skills.

Besides, interacting with humans has never been pleasant. All they do is lie.

I'm with you on that. But I honestly don't see flirting as lying.

When the married guy at work says, "Wow, what a great dress. You always look so nice. You can visit my cube anytime," and I bat my eyelashes, smile, and say "Thank you," how is that a lie?

Your actions are borderline, I must admit, but still can be considered lying. You respond to his lure with an affirmative, and therefore engage in the fantasy that you two are attracted to each other.

Did I mention I strongly dislike flirting? If someone wants my attention in a romantic way, I prefer truth.