Argh. Angry at myself.

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For a whole year and more, I'm pretty sure I irritated a load of people when I wouldn't shut up about me not having a gf, and how it was driving me to despair that everyone I knew was easily finding people and I was alone.

Then on Singles Awareness Day last year, I decided to change my focus. I said to myself "forget this, you don't need someone at all. You're fine being on your own". Sure enough, less than three motnhs later I ended up getting my first girlfriend.

Now you've probably already seen me mention this elsewhere, but that only lasted 2 days. And my other gf after that, only 8. Both turned to me after their last relationships were pretty much failures. So, in reality, I've never had someone who has ever cared for me. And I mean in the sense of gf, I know I have plenty of friends who look out for me.

But recently... my mindset has gone back into what it once was, and I don't know why. It's getting on my nerves because I know if I don't get stopped soon, I'll start making my friends annoyed. Theydon't deserve to hear me whine about something as pointless as this, but I'm stuck in the mindset again. I want out, because I know it's something stupid to complain about, but I'm slowly becoming consumed by it all. I need help, and fast. I don't want to become what I was before again.

Think about it this way: every time you manage to avoid whining about wanting a girlfriend, you've just made yourself a little more attractive to the opposite sex.

Your desires aren't pointless though. Don't be too hard on yourself. We've all had times when we've wondered whether we're meant to be alone forever.

I tend to be reasonably optimistic about it.
I don't like to complain about it, complaining won't do anything, action is the first step.

hand + imagination = free imaginary girlfriend... She has sex with me whenever I want, and then I just send her back to the dark recesses of my mind...

Don't think *I want a girlfriend*.
Think *I don't need a girlfriend, I've lived alone and I'm perfectly capable of socially living alone*
This idea helped me a great deal in making me happy without having a girlfriend and when you're happy with your life, girlfriends come almost automatically.

Good for you for taking the initiative. Look on the bright side--it could have been a one-night stand, but instead it was 2 days and then 8 days. If these trends continue....
don't give up!

You gave into peer pressure at first then you accepted not having it then you gave up that acceptance.

There is no "ACTION" to be done here.

You need to do everything possible NOT to obsess over them. Give up porn, it helps.

I have accepted that I am not to be with anyone right now and I have many women paying attention to me. But I am not interested soo just because they are doesnt mean I am.

You want a sure fire girlfriend?

Go to another country. I knew geeky guys who couldnt even get dates in the US get beautiful nice wives in Taiwan.

Short of that there is no advice other that do nothing. You will suffer. I'm just being realistic here.
Good luck

Hand & mind?
Give up porn?

People, people, people... I'm not that kind of guy! I don't do either of those things! (And by that I mean I've never watched porn)