Advice on approaching this girl...

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Okay, I know this girl... you know, I like her... and I just want to know the best way to approach her. She's really shy, but I've noticed that she's very open with her friends. She's very into MySpace as well, and I don't know her all that well, but she hangs around with the same group of friends as me and she's in a few of my classes... and I just got a MySpace recently, so I was thinking of adding her, and saying something like "hey, we haven't talked all that much, but you seem really interesting" ... or something like that? but I was thinking it might be more appropriate if I talked to her or something first, or at least said hi, like in real life. God I just don't know what to do, as I said, she's really shy, I just need a good way of breaking the ice. Pleeeeease help!

If you contact her on myspace saying that, she'll know you like her. If that's what you want, then perfect!

But as a shy girl, if by chance I didn't like you yet, I would be freaked out that you found me on myspace. The safest bet is to say hi to her in real life a few times, maybe ask for something and then ask if she has myspace so you can keep tabs on it or something. (Homework help, borrow a book, advice on something, whatever.) It's a lot easier to be open on myspace, for shy people, so it might be good to veer in that direction...

I once asked a classmate I hardly knew if I could borrow a book, knowing it was one of his favorites so he had it, and hoping it would give us something to talk about. Of course he took my phone number so we could meet up again and he could give it to me. Unfortunately he didn't like me, but it started a friendship.

But I really have no idea what I'm talking about, LOL. I'm in a similar situation with a shy guy now. Good luck!

If she hangs out with the same group of friends as you, that is a major INVITE man. You should all go do something outside of school, and that will give you a chance to talk to her, and let her know you better.

Just don't rush it man or you'll come off desperate or you'll give her all the cards. Just keep it cool, get to know her casually, and then it'll just lead from there. Like perhaps while your talking might find have common interest, or she likes a movie you love, and can invite her to watch it with you, ect.

But sharing same circle of friends is a major plus gives you a lot of opportunties to casually get to know her.

But remember, key is casual. Which means first time get to talking to her don't start asking if can add her to your Myspace, and don't start telling her your entire personal life and problems, ect. In fact, just let her do most of the talking.

Grantzilla is totally right, do it casually. If she's shy this is definately the best way. If you hang out with the same people just try saying hi to her a few times and maybe joining in on a conversation with her and a few others, keep it on a group basis until you're both a bit more familiar with each other, find out things you have in common etc before bringing up myspace or anything. Good luck