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How is it possible for someone to love somebody, but not like them at the same time?

It's not!

But the strangest part of it all is, that it apparently is possible. I overheard a good friend of mine telling another friend of how she loved her boyfriend, but she didn't like him, and I can't figure out how that works.

Here's one way to look at it.

Love is: Wanting that person to be happy.
Like is: Enjoying that person's company.

These are not necessarily reliant on one another.

It's not true! Are you sure that she didn't say that she likes him but doesn't love him? Either way, it is just a BS saying.

Usually weird phrases like those really mean something like this: "I think he is nice, but he is ugly." or "He's cute, but he's a loser."

Yes it's possible - even common.

It's not strictly true but is just a feeling that you're getting.

You might be resentful because you think;
- I could do better
- Sometimes they're annoying
- I wanna be out with my mates etc...

Love (particularly early loves) are very confusing.

Dont worry, it'll pass.

Sounds kind of abusive?
If she loves her boyfriend, but does not like him, then she needs to get away from him. Better yet, run from him quickly. Given more time, their relationship can get more serious, and more emotionally painful to break off.

Love is an instinct, whereas liking someone is usually based on observable facts. Common sense so to speak...

Yeah, the two don't always intersect. I can understand a lot of what the OP is saying as well just because, one can find themselves very sexually magnetized to opposites and while that can be great for chemistry it can be pretty hard on other aspects of a relationship.

Yes. I loved my ex-husband, but at times I really didn't like him at all.
Aslo family, sometimes you really don't like them, but you still love them anyway.

You guys are taking about not liking something about them or something they did. That is different than just plain not liking them.

That's exactly what I was trying to address. It could be not liking a thing, a few things, or them in their entirety.

Easily. My brother is a lazy sod who expects me to cook and clean for him despite the fact he's now twenty years old. We have nothing in common. However, I love him. There's not really a logical reason for me to love him, but I do.

Try listening to "I Hate Everything About You" by Three Days Grace sometime...

Yeah, it's absolutely possible. If it wasn't people wouldn't be saying it was! XD

It most commonly applies to family members who you're related to but don't like much. XD

What about (I know this isn't dating, but still) parents and their children?
I frequently hear friends of mine who are parenting teenagers say that they LOVE their children, but at the moment don't LIKE them at all.
Is that possible? Or is it that the feeling of love for them has been temporarily suspended, but they're confident that it will return? Or is love really unconditional, and if so, how do you demonstrate love to someone you dislike, and at the same time make it clear that you dislike them? Or is it just hope that if you continue to say you love them (whether true or not), things will get better and you will like them?