Need some advice on if I should try to contact her

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Ok there is this girl I really like and I know she liked me for two semesters we go to the same college and shared a teacher twice but last semester was last I saw and now I know her facebook and want to contact her. But at the end of the last semester I tried to talk to her and she stop and looked at her friend and mouthed like she was wondering what I wanted thats because I'm so nervous that over the semester I couldnt talk to her. Her friend tried to hook us up and all and we even went out to study and she asked me to walk her to her car that was all last semester though. And now I think I saw her and but didnt smile at her because I was zoned out and now she dropped that class. Ok I KNOW what this seems like but I never got overly needy or aggressive in trying to know her just to nervous and she is really shy too. And I dont have trouble reading ppl that much just shy and friendless. Anyway she has a boyfriend now and I still want to atleast try to be her friend in the hopes it wont work out. I have ZERO girl experience and just really want to get to know her Im pretty sure she thinks i hate her because im to nervous to look at her. And she's to nervous ahh its just so upsetting. I just want to know if she'll think I totally crazy and obsessive and hate me or something. Oh and I really only have trouble understading the way ppl think not body language or anything I've just been alone along time for context.
Hope that made sense if not I cant simplify at request.

wow, almost the same exact thing happened to me at the end of last quarter. It was almost creepily similar. I chickened out and decided not to facebook msg her and I've regretted it. I don't have any classes with her though and I probably won't in the future seeing as how we're in different major programs and there are like 35K undergrads at my Uni. Might I ask how big your college is and what the likelihood of you running into her much is?

I'm going to a community college so there aren't any where near that many and I've already seen her a few times. I think shes at least upset with me though because I think she avoided me after I just looked away that day. She's really sensitive I made her cry one day because I couldnt look at her, she thought I hated her. But now I guess its lower because she dropped that class. I dont know why but she always thinks I'll be mean to her I'm never mean even to ppl who really deserve it.

well it sounds to me like you couldn't possibly do any MORE harm to her image of you by contacting her in a non-pressured kind of way, like on facebook. If you explain to her that you were just a little bit nervous because you thought she was cute, and acted a little like a douche-bag and apologize for any stress you might have caused her, at least she'll understand why you were acting kinda strange. She'll feel better about it and you will too. If she is in a relationship right now she most likely won't go running toward your loving arms, but I bet if she is anyone worth your time she'll forgive you. If not, how is it any different than the way things are now. Those are my two cents.

First im an Emu Egg????
Second I'm chronically negative in my thoughts, like right now I want to but Im afraid she'll think im crazy and yadda yadda which is sad because most girls it turns out like me but im to slow on the uptake. I dont suppose you have any non-threating willing to be a friend type msg ideas because I tend to be to wordy. Oh and her stress problem actually ate up her stomach lining and she cant drink alcohol that just how sensitive she is kinda bad but she is the best girl I've ever met.

It doesn't have to be a particularly short explanation. I would start with something along the lines of:

"Hey (her name here), I realize that I've been acting kinda nervous or awkward around you, but sometimes I'm like that around cute girls, and I wanted to apologize for any stress I may have caused you. I think you're awesome and it seemed like you were trying to reach out to me and I didn't realize it at the time and I may have blown my chance at having you as a friend. If I did blow it, I'm sorry and forget I ever sent you this, but if I didn't then please let me know. I think it'd be really cool if we could hang out sometime, so give me a call if you want to go bowling or something (or not, cuz I would totally understand if you thought I was crazy). (Leave your phone# here). See you around.

It doesn't have to be anything all that brilliant or funny. Just don't stress over it. If she is cold-hearted enough not to respond to you being that vulnerable, then she is quite obviously NOT the greatest girl you've ever met. Let me know how it goes.

I sent a msg dont know how it went over if at all yet maybe later.

She just changed her pic on display to her boyfriend and never mailed me so I guess she just doesnt like me anymore.