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WushuTricks
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10 Feb 2008, 3:47 am

I have been trying to figure out my sexuality all my life and I know certain things. I am not attracted to males, I am slightly attracted to female bodies(common for most male teens), but I don't feel love. Maybe it's because I haven't found that someone out there but I'm just not as attracted as a normal person would be.



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10 Feb 2008, 4:01 am

I have a theory that a lot of problems aspies have in this department stem from us seeing connections between others as being deeper than they actually are. This is probably because we're often misunderstood and need a deeper connection with someone in order to feel as comfortable with them as an NT couple looks when they're together. There's no way to tell how many couples are actually in love or just going through the motions, so don't set your standards too high in the "looking for love" department.

Maybe it'd help to try to observe shy girls that don't immediately stand out?


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10 Feb 2008, 4:18 am

It sounds to me like you're either a) Asexual or b) Straight with a very low sex drive.



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10 Feb 2008, 5:07 am

Dunwich wrote:
I have a theory that a lot of problems aspies have in this department stem from us seeing connections between others as being deeper than they actually are. This is probably because we're often misunderstood and need a deeper connection with someone in order to feel as comfortable with them as an NT couple looks when they're together. There's no way to tell how many couples are actually in love or just going through the motions, so don't set your standards too high in the "looking for love" department.

Maybe it'd help to try to observe shy girls that don't immediately stand out?


I also have thought about this in a very similar way, because I have the OP's problem. I want to get married, have a family and find that special someone, but it just seems eather I am missing that special connection, they call it 'true love' or your theory is correct.


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10 Feb 2008, 7:53 am

Well WushuTricks. You basically just described me... if you by "don't feel love" meen that you have never been in love. Then you are describing me perfectly.
If however you meen that you feel no love at all, then only the things on sexuality applies to me. (I love my friends, family, even my cats :) )
I'm not sure why you post though. Are you sad that you have never been in love? My philosophy is that whatever will be will be, either it will come one day, or it will not.


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10 Feb 2008, 12:23 pm

I am just like that. I don't feel attracted to anyone of either gender. I would like to have a girlfriend someday, but I'm worried that I wouldn't be able to "return to the favor"



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10 Feb 2008, 1:34 pm

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if you by "don't feel love" meen that you have never been in love.


I used to be all "WTF" about other people and love up through the 7th grade (and I had already started puberty and having some sexual attractions at that point)...

It wasn't until about my 14th birthday (8th grade) that I ended up falling in love... and still am to this day...



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10 Feb 2008, 11:54 pm

Cyanide wrote:
It sounds to me like you're either a) Asexual or b) Straight with a very low sex drive.


Well since I'm 16, the horomones are acting crazy and I get tons of urges like most teens. So I guess I'm straight with a very low connection sense.