No, no one hacked into my account, I actually wrote this

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I came to a realization very recently. I can get a date, and if you're reading this, and odds are that you can to.

No, I'm not saying this because it happened. But I thought about it very carefully and realized that if I really wanted to I could find a date. The reason I haven't is because I'm afraid that the date wouldn't go well and that the whole thing would just be too much of a pain in the ass. But I'm finished pretending to myself that I can't get one.

For a date I would have to think of a place and stuff to do on a date. I'd have to pay for it (I understand that dates aren't cheap either), and that would happen even if she didn't like me. I'd also have to keep her interest for hours, which sounds quite difficult. It's more a factor of that I'm afraid of dating and if I really want to change that I need to stop worrying about being unliked by women but instead focusing on what I can do to prepare myself for it when I think I'm ready.

This line of thinking came when I realized that one thing that keeps me from having friends is that I don't do facebook. After eavesdropping in on some conversations I came to realize that that really is a hindrance. That's where they talk about party plans and sometimes talk to each other and break the ice. That's also a way that you can check to see who's available.

Maybe now you're catching on to what I meant when I said that if you think you can't get a date you're probably wrong. If you use facebook you don't even have to ask her/him face to face so it's a lot less stressful, you can check his/her profile to see if he/she's single and everything. It'd be like a blind date but it's still a date, and who knows, maybe it would work. Almost anyone, unless there are some unusual circumstances can get a blind date.

So basically what I'm saying is that we should be focusing more on how to date so that we can overcome our fear of the thing rather than just complain about how we can't get a date. We can, we're just afraid of it.

Very perceptive - you are 100% right

I agree with you, I came to the same conclusion.

Except dates don't necessarily have to be expensive. It depends who you are taking on the date, what the expectations are and what initiative you can use.

I wouldn't overplay facebook. It is useful for some people to keep in touch with friends they have already made. It is just a web application. Yes there are people that use it to have casual encounters with strangers, parties, etc. But personally I wouldn't do this I am happy to meet people on specific forums though.