Embarassing incident and saying stupid things.

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Last night I went out with one of my girlfriends and her boyfriend and another guy from church. It wasn't a date, because my friend asked the guy if he wanted to join us for dinner so it wasn't a situation in which he asked me out himself. In the parking lot before we went into the restaurant I mentioned that it had gotten chilly . He smiled and said "Just wait until Saturday." He put his hand on my back and caressed it for a few seconds. . I know that I don't read nonverbal cues very well but it seemed like a flirtatious gesture to me. I can't imagine a straight man making a gesture like that to another man. He was referring to the fact that Saturday was supposed to be even colder. So guys, does that sound like a flirtatious gesture to you?

At dinner things went fairly well although he seemed to spend most of the time engaged in conversation with the other guy. Now for the really embarrasing part; I knocked over my glass of iced tea and it shattered and iced tea spilled all over the table and spilled onto my friend sitting across from me . I overreacted and put my hands on my head and kept saying I'm sorry . Everyone was nice about it but I felt like such an idiot. Now he probably thinks I'm a real weirdo or something . After dinner in the parking lot my friend asked him if he could give me a ride to church next Thursday since I don't drive and she would not be able to take me. I stupidly blurted out "Well, I had fun tonight." I feel like such an idiot. He said "Yeah, me too" but didn't seem overly enthusiastic about it. The funny thing is, I suspect he may be on the autism spectrum, albeit mildly. So what should I do? Should I tell him about being on the autism spectrum to explain why I overreacted to the drink being spilled and the glass breaking? I know it really wasn't a date, but he seems like a really nice guy and we also have some things in common. My friend said his body language was hard to read and that she didn't get a clear picture of him being interested in me. . O.K., that's it. I give up. I am so tired of always meeting someone nice and interesting with whom I have things in common with and then they are not interested in me the same way I'm interested in them. Why can't I meet someone who is a good person with common interests who feels the same way I do . OK, rant over.

I’ve done stuff like that too. You have to tell yourself that most people would not hold it against you and if he did he is probably not worth it anyway. Overreacting is quite normal when you are nervous. The point is the event is over now so you need to try to let it go.

and it sais in your profile you are a woman, so why would you think its ghey for a man to touch your back like that?