Is anyone else desperately lonely?

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It seems like everyone has at least a friend they can interact with, even if they don't have a significant other. I, unfortunately, do not even have a friend. When I was in school I think I kinda had a few friends, but I never met them outside of school and when school was over that was the end of that. I'm desperately alone and I don't know what to do.

I wish I had a girlfriend, but even just a friend would be great. That is something I never really had, and I doubt that I ever will. Can anyone relate to this?

I never hung out with friends outside of school either and I didn't really want to.
Sometimes I want friends but I know I'll most likely just screw it up.

I can relate. I felt that way for a long time. The only thing I can think to suggest is that you search for a social group of some kind to join. It is often possible to find such groups that are specifically for Aspies. I have frequented a few of these and they helped me a lot when I was lonely. You could search through the websites of a few Autism and Asperger's websites and find out if there are any near you.

If not, you could find a group with more general admittance that is related to an interest or hobby of yours. So as to meet like-minded individuals.

I hope this helps.

Do I feel lonely? let me count the ways....... this may take a few days

i was just thinking last night as i fell asleep... how my opportunities to meet and interact with people are dwindling away as i get older and move around for school ect... i can't seem to really keep in touch with people and most often times just have my kitties for company...... which i do recommend (pets)... i love them to death.

yes

I don't often admit it but it would be an accurate description. I do have a few friends but don't keep them too close. I've been trying really hard to meet a potential significant other but most people are just so... confusing and BORING!

I prefer doing things rather than sitting around being social... like sports rather than chatting in a pub or sitting around having dinner. But unfortunately the older I get the harder it is to find people who might consider doing things I consider fun. I'm happy doing things on my own but then we get back to point A... sometimes it just gets desperately lonely.

Indeed... relating is definitely one thing I CAN do.
Plenty of threads on here about how one might approach making friends as an Aspie. I can only suggest reading those. Other than that...

*solidarity*

I believe I have finally made a friend on here, but I still feel lonely. Just like a lot of people here, all I want is some form of female companionship. Someone that will listen to me and I can listen to. Every single time I've come close to getting that, some macho NT male comes along and takes her away from me making all my efforts a joke. I can treat them with the love and support they deserve but they would rather have some macho NT male that would discard them like they were garbage immediately after the sex is over.

D#MMIT!! !! WHY CAN'T I BE LOVED TOO!! !! !! *weeps*

No I'm actually the opposite, and am quite happy with life. I don't see why everyone can't be the same, its not very hard. Sometimes I wish people didn't love me as much as they do, it makes me feel so undeserving

I don't even have one friend never mind a gf I think I can see why many people would want to end it all has I feel just exist and that's it.

That's how I feel. I'm not suicidal, really, but I just carry on feeling as if my life has no meaning or purpose. I don't think suicide makes much sense, because even if I did kill myself I'll still be alone and unloved. By staying alive there is always a chance (a very slim chance) that I will find someone some day.

Other than that, all I have are my books and music and video-games to look forward to in life. Fictional characters in them are the closest thing I really have to a friend.

I don't have friends, just acquaintances. I feel as though I'm the only one I know who doesn't have close friends or a great social life. I do talk to a few people on here though, who I feel are genuine friends.

There are different kinds of loneliness. I don't be lonely from being alone as I can walk over to my family next door. But even among my family I often still feel a different kind of loneliness.

Not quite.

I wish I was. Sounds moronic, however I should be feel lonely because when I think about it I do feel alone and don't want to be that way. Only, I have to force myself to think about it because my emotions are screwed up. I know what it is like to feel lonely. I could do with that now.

I have neither a signifigant other nor any friends here within the city limits of PDX . Its totally frustrating the hell out of me.......