Unusual Stalking scenario.

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29 Sep 2005, 6:36 pm

So one day, I get this E-mail from a person, saying that this girl is looking for a boyfriend. He describes her, shows pictures, etc. and things seem OK at first. I use Facebook.com and realize that yes, this girl is an actual person and this guy's description of her matches perfectly. So here she is, some girl that is in my class that I don't know, yet looks like a person I could befriend.

Naturally, I'm skeptical, and E-mail the girl, with the original E-mail attached; she says this guy has been stalking her for the past 6 months, she apologizes for the inconvenience, and hopes to see me in class, and asks me to foward any new mails he sends. What is your assessment of the situation? Such is my desparation that I've fallen for her at a mere textual description, yet I feel like I don't want to get into trouble over stalking this soon.

The original E-mail looks like this:

Quote:

I'm Catie's friend, and she is in your class. I added two pics to this email
if you don't know her by name yet.

My friend Catie has been really shy about meeting guys, and has not made an
effort like she told me she would! So I'm gonna help her out and introduce
her to some of her classmates, which would be you guys. If your a female and
you got this email, maybe you have a guy that matches what she is looking
for!

Catie is a shy but outgoing girl who loves animals, hence her
major(zoology). She's an intellectual, and appreciates just talking about
current events. She likes some gothy things but is totally not goth. Catie
is pretty and cute as a button, but she never flirts first so don't be shy
about just walking up and saying hi.

As far as what Catie is looking for in a relationship, she may give the
illusion that she likes to hook up, but really she needs to move slow and is
looking to get to know someone before she gets frisky. Once she's
comfortable though, all bets are off! Guys who know how to use a pair of
cuffs will score bonus points with Catie, but really she is just looking for
a sweet, intellectual guy with a dominant side.

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29 Sep 2005, 7:10 pm

That would baffle me too. Either she's got a weird stalker (or some kinda mean friends), or she's damned weird herself, if you think she wrote it herself as some bizarre way to meet people. The question is, which is it, and can you deal with whichever one it is?

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29 Sep 2005, 7:24 pm

Wow, the situation sure is weird. This girl sounds really nice, and the description doesn't look like a prank. However, when something seems too good to be true, it probably is. Since there is no harm in trying, I'd go ahead and risk it. However, be extremely careful all throughout the process, and be ready to stop at any time.

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29 Sep 2005, 7:25 pm

If someone did that to me I'd kick their arse.

If she knows this guy in real life, I don't see why she doesn't approach him or call the police.

Seems a bit fishy to me.

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29 Sep 2005, 7:31 pm

This is a bit odd. See how she knows this person. If she's asking you to report any new messages to her then that is a little wierd. It almost seems to me like she knows the guy. However, it could be very true that she is sick of the emails.

Try not to get too worked up from descriptions and profiles. Sometimes they do come true but you just have to keep it real. Even if someone seems really friendly and everything you wished for....just keep calm at first and let things play out. Be friendly and maybe ask what is going on with the guy. If she is telling you to report back any of his emails then you should be able to rightly ask of her what the story is on him. If she doesn't want to talk too much about it then don't force anything from her.

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29 Sep 2005, 8:17 pm

Bizarre

It sounds as though he wants to stalk her vicariously through you.
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30 Sep 2005, 12:41 am

Leave it alone. Nothing good will come of it. She may even be lying to you and her girlfriends set the whole thing up as a joke. Girls are manipulative and like getting guys to drool all over them only to embarrass and humiliate them in the end. I know, because I am a girl, well woman actually.

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30 Sep 2005, 1:25 am

tallgirl wrote:

Are you saying you've done this before?

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30 Sep 2005, 9:23 am

OK then, I'll post the rest of the letters, starting from oldest to newest.

MagicMike wrote:

Yesterday, I received an E-mail from a friend of yours
([email protected]), saying that you're looking for a relationship
but are shy about it, and that we share a class (though to be honest, I
don't know which one). Judging by the letter's description, I'm interested
in meeting you (can you tell I'm shy too?). Care to talk sometime?

Catie wrote:

Uh...I don't know what class we share, but the guy who sent you the email
is NOT a friend of mine...he is some crazy internet stalker who decided to
"help" me make friends. I'm perfectly fine making friends myself, but I'm
sure I'll see you around class regardless. I'm sorry for the
inconvinence...
Catie

MagicMike wrote:

I should have figured he was a stalker...his E-mail describing you was
practically a character synopsis of you. If there is something you can do,
you can tell me who this stalker is, so that I can avoid him (e.g. if he
decides to harass me for some perceived insult).
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
I'm Catie's friend, and she is in your class. I added two pics to this
email if you don't know her by name yet.
-How this guy knows who I am and that I'm in your class is suspicious
enough...did he steal a class roster?

My friend Catie has been really shy about meeting guys, and has not made
an effort like she told me she would! So I'm gonna help her out and
introduce her to some of her classmates, which would be you guys. If your
a female and you got this email, maybe you have a guy that matches what
she is looking for!
-So it's a mass-mailing, and apparently he's trying to pressure you.

Catie is a shy but outgoing girl who loves animals, hence her
major(zoology). She's an intellectual, and appreciates just talking about
current events. She likes some gothy things but is totally not goth. Catie
is pretty and cute as a button, but she never flirts first so don't be shy
about just walking up and saying hi.

As far as what Catie is looking for in a relationship, she may give the
illusion that she likes to hook up, but really she needs to move slow and
is looking to get to know someone before she gets frisky. Once she's
comfortable though, all bets are off! Guys who know how to use a pair of
cuffs will score bonus points with Catie, but really she is just looking
for a sweet, intellectual guy with a dominant side.
-OK...even if you're into bondage, what type of person goes around
publicly advertising it for you?

Say hi to her in class or send her a line at [email protected] if you think
she might be your type!

Luvz ya Catie!! ! <3
---------------------------------------------------------------------------

Once again, sorry about the trouble.

Oh, and he also fowarded several jpg pics of you. And most suspiciously,
his Email doesn't show up in hotmail's database.

Unusual question though; I facebooked you after receiving the Email, to
see if you were real, and most of the letter matched up with what he said.
Most likely he just read your facebook and copied a lot ("...followed by a
long night of duct tape and leather," tranlating to "Guys who know how to
use a pair of cuffs will score bonus points with Catie," etc.), but the
paranoid part of me has to ask: how do I know you and the stalker are not
the same person? I really doubt that's the case, but I've got to be safe.

Catie wrote:

Well, I guess there's no straight up way to prove to you that we are two
different people, but he's been bugging me for about six months now on
AIM. His sn is Coilgungt and now he won't talk to me, and he signs off
every time he sees I'm online, which is nice on one hand, but on the other
hand he sent out that email to only God knows how many people. He wanted
to meet me in person, and even though we both go to State I didn't feel
comfortable meeting in person since I only knew him from the net. I don't
know what his deal is, but whatever. I promise you I'm not so desperate as
to send a random email to a gazillion people I don't know just to get
someone to talk to. If I was that bad off, I wouldn't have so many
facebook people write on my wall. Regardless, I'm sorry for the
inconvinence, and maybe I'll see you in Philosophy(I facebooked you, and
that's the class we have together), although I never really go, lol.

MagicMike wrote:

I'm not inconvenienced at all, and it's not your fault he contacted me.
I'm headed to class on Monday, so maybe we can talk more then; this guy
has been sending me more specific messages, and frankly college is
stressful enough without having to worry about being stalked myself.

Catie wrote:

If you wouldn't mind forwarding me any messages he sends, I would like to
have some evidence if he does anything really wrong. Right now I'm just
annoyed, but if it goes past that, I want to have something to show for
it. I won't be in class Monday, as I'll be headed back to Raleigh from
home. Thanks...
Catie

Little Pony wrote:

To those of you emailing me about having trouble finding her in class, she
recently died her hair blue! You never know what you're getting with Catie!
She's still looking for a boyfriend, but she said she has shown interest in
a few of the replies she's gotten.

And this is it so far. Messy, no?

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30 Sep 2005, 9:51 am

I don't know why but I'm approching this from a different stand point.

Her explaination of what happened rings true with me. Some nut is trying to cause her problems. She wants the e-mail so she has proof in case it escalates.

You've made contact of a kind so, if I were you, I'd feel free to talk to her in class. I'd also assume that she had no special interest in getting into a relationship.

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