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Well...umm...exactly how do you ask a girl out? I seemed to have screwed on every other attempt and was wondering how do you do it right? I've always ended up getting a friend to do it for me, which never really works. I might just do what feels natural for me tomorrow, witch'll yield some intersting iresults. We've talked a lot (compared to other frineds) in the past few days and I think we're mutually interested in eash other. Shr's nice to me, and I only met her on Tuesday. It's more detailed in my LiveJournal, but a conversation I had with her has made my week a better one. It seems so perfect, but I have no idea how to approach the idea.I might ask her for contact information, and then ask her online or on the phone. But is that the acceptable way to ask someone out? On the phone? Online?! And how do you do it? How do you ask a girl out? It plagues me so!! !

Ask her face to face. Is there a movie you want to see? Ask her if she's seen it. If she hasn't ask her if she wants to go with you. Is there a restaraunt you want to try? Ask her if she wants to go to. Tell her, "Hey It will be my treat" Thats how my husband landed me. I never thought of going out with him untill he mentioned he wanted to try this place and asked me if I would go. I didn't dislike him so I went, well, we were friends and had dated other people casually, but I never thought of going out with him at that time and didn't think anything would come out of it. Then we kept going out, now I'm stuck with him ahh but what can one do.....he's a keeper.

paula's advice sounds good to me, sarcastic name - i was going to say the same thing.

do you know what she likes to do? maybe spend a bit of time finding out - she might not like cinemas/restaurants, etc. do you have any shared interests?

I was going to suggest exactly what Paula said (especially the face-to-face approach), but then I was afraid I might be out-of-date. I'm glad to see I'm not.

Don't be afraid to be yourself. If that's not going to work now, it's not going to work later either. But, as Vetivert says, find out what she likes and suggest something you would both enjoy.

Asking girls out has always been a big problem for me. Of course, some of it may just be that I'm not most girls' ideal guy. But I've also struggled with how to ask them - namely, asking them in a way so that it's not too obvious that I'm interested in being their boyfriend. Also, any way to tell how a girl is single, or to ask them without making it obvious that you're interested?

So asking online wouldn't be nice?

It would probably be best to ask her in person. Also just ask her, don't say some sort of 'clever' line. Good luck.

I feel let on. She has a boyfrined.

POOF! There goes my happy week! Bye happy week!! !

All you need to be is down-to-earth. Nothing flashy, and don't use pick up lines or bad jokes (it makes you seem like you're trying too hard). Next time you see her, ask her to come over, or to go out to a movie or something. slip it into convarsation (ex: "you know that new movie, the 40-year-old virgin? doesn't it sound awesome? we should go see it together!"), she'll probably say yes. Simple as that.

Good luck!! !

I would try to find someone who has at least one or two common interests. That way, you would have something to talk about if all else fails. Just be casual about asking someone out. That's the best advice I can give.

It turns out she doesn't have a boyfriend. Rather than beating around the bush, I just asked everything I wanted to know online. She doesn't feel like dating right now, but I think it's fairly obvious I'm intersted now that I've asked her my questions. I never did ask her if she was flirting with me or not, maybe I was flirting with her? Hmm...

Bah. If she says she's not interested in dating right now, it's her nice way of saying she's not interested in you. At all. So forget about her.

Never believe a woman if she says any of the following to you:

"I like you as a friend." (a gay one)

"You're like a brother to me." (You remind me of that banjo-playing kid from Deliverance)

"I'm not looking to date right now." (I'm not looking to date you)

"You're not my type." (You're creepy and obnoxious)