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I have found a girl who is very attractiv and whom I would like tog et to know better and possibly ask out. The problem is, I don't know what to do. I have never talked to her, she isent in my class and she seems very cool and self-secure. How do people attract other people? I have hear that one could dress really well and perhaps ask the person they like something to break the ice. Any other tips?

You could see if any of your friends know any of her friends and ask to be introduced, or find out if she is in any groups or clubs that you could join too, like drama or comptuers, for instance, as a way to get to know her. It might work

look man I have AS too and I havent had a Girlfriend in a while But I have had many girls intrested in me ever since Ive been more confident and dressed Different for instance I used to wear Polos and stuff girls dont like that They like it when you are confident and wear brands like ecko rocawear and shady clothes I did it and trust me there is a big Difference

So if you dress well girls will like you? So I should ditch my broken thights and go for nice skirts? I have one really cute with a zipper on the side.
When you smile at someone to get them to understand that you are interested how do you do it? I've heard that you should only raise one side of you mouth but that must look kinda odd.

I dunno but you could try saving her from getting run over by a train or something- that usually works for me. Maybe get some of your friends to tie her to some train-tracks and then you can turn up and save her.

Seriously though, the best advice (and you'll have heard it before) it to just be yourself. While it is important to look presentable, don't feel as if you have to wear clothes that you don't like or feel comfortable in, or act in a way that you feel is deceitful.
Just summon up the courage to go and speak to her. Be friendly, be polite, and be yourself.

(I know that what I said might seem obvious, and I certainly don't intend for it to sound patronising, so I hope it doesn't come across that way.)

Oh and that smile from the side of the mouth? You mean like
this: ? If it feels unnatural don't force it- she might think you have some sort of facial tic,

Yeah I tried that halfsmile infront the the mirror and it looked really freaky.
The things is now... I've looked for her but I don't find here anywere and I'm afraid that my somewhat faceblindness has made me forget what she looks like. Very embarasing...

What NOT To Do If You Want Her

• Don't start talking about Pokemon or something along that line. Attractive girls usually don't like that.
• Don't kiss her upper arm, unless she doesn't mind.
• Don't follow her around to the point of her losing her cool, which, by your description of her, sounds like she has a lot.
• Don't tell other people she's been doing stuff she hasn't.
• If you hang out with other girls, don't tell her that they're brainwashing you.
• Don't sit next to her TOO much, unless you get really close to her. 1 or 2 times a day (depending on how much she likes it)(not counting desks [at school] next to each other) is plenty. 3 can be annoying and 4 is too much.
• Don't scream if she says something that you don't want to hear.

I know a boy who did all of these to/around me. We were friends at first, but after he did all these things (and more) to/around me, we quit being friends. He's the Ryan I was talking about in Predict What Your First Day Of School Will Be Like (no, the actual topic doesn't have those capitalizations). (In case you were wondering, it turns out there was no Ryan, no steak sauce, and no bubble-gum-loving math teacher on my first day of school.). I hope you won't/don't act like Ryan around the girl!

Mich

Definately follow michs advice. I have the reverse problem to you.
I get too much unwanted attention so I know what it's like.. from guys, from girls (who are so inclined) and sometimes I just wanna be left in peace to write my C++ and JAVA assignments without being vaguly aware that the guy at the workstation across from me is eyeing me up, unfortuanately this isn't something I can just put on exclude filter, it hurts my feelings.

I even had a girl who went so far as stalking me.
Yes I know how you feel, i find my self attracted to heaps of people who don't or probably won't return your feelings, but I always try to make them come to me.

After the experience with the crazy stalker girl i'm careful never to anoy someone i'm attracted to by hanging around and being a nusience.

Sorry if this is a little harsh, but given that i've had actually use physical force against guys more than once to get the message across that i'm not interested you can see where i'm comming from.

Wow, I've never had that problem. People are just too intimidated to say they like me... yeah that must be it.

But if it bothers you that people are staring at you, maybe try giving them a weird look... of DOOM!
Scare those people out of their socks!

Do not underestimate the importance of good shoes. If you don't know the difference between good shoes and bad shoes, then find a girl who'll go shoe shopping with you. ...say, and it might be a good line to get her on a date... a shoe-shopping date, that is. Seriously, chicks love shoes.

People try and attract me all the time and i'm not interested in any of them.

Just be yourself, it really depends on what the girl herself wants. You can never force someone to like you.

Do you have anything in common with this girl? or is it more of a physical based crush? Do you even know her at all? It might be risky approaching someone you don't know anything about and expecting them to hold a chatty friendly conversation with you.

You’re right.. sorta. You’re speaking from a female perspective. You are the ones who get approached, it’s up to the guys to do the initial approaching. Trust me, it sucks being a guy. Girls do the picking and choosing, guys do the hard work!

Oh.. but, when you said:

hale_bob:

“People try and attract me all the time and i'm not interested in any of them.”

That makes a lot of sense. In the art of seduction, it’s important to come across as the “object of desire”, event when you’re the guy. The guy should make himself an appealing character, and the girl is drawn to him.

When a guy goes up to a girl and tries putting the moves on her, he’s at big disadvantage. Desperation is the worst thing a guy can emit, and even by going up to a girl, you are suggesting desperation.

If you must approach a girl, make sure it’s extremely causal and friendly, no big moves, no cheesy lines, and no suggestion whatsoever of a romantic encounter. Seduction requires non-desperation, patience, and friendliness. It’s supposed to be fun, not creepy.

find a way to get to know this girl, and get her to like YOU as a person. ask her stuff about herself but don't make it seem sketchy or anything. become a friend first, then maybe it will unfold from there...

shooooooooes, sinewave - come shoe shopping with me, and i'm yours for life! (well, until the next pair, anyway.....).

oh, and btw - does that include boooooots?

Say, are you making fun of how people with Canadian/American accents say the word shoes?

Long, long ago I was dating a girl from England (well, eh.... long distance relationship (well, eh... except for six weeks of very, very short-distance relations) ), and she found it quite hilarious how I said the word "shoes", and "roof"... and.. well, all of those words. She'd trick me into saying the word "shoes" as often as she could.

Yeah, I guess it includes beuts, too. (that's how YOU guys say it!)

I don't really care much for shoes, really. But the girls dig them, so I have to! *whipped!*[/i]