Aspies who are in a relationship, what do you get out of it?

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Aspies who are in a relationship with anyone...what do you get out of it? What makes you want it? Because AS implies more of wanting NOT to be in a rel....


Please answer. I need as many people as possible to answer this.

Before ten other people mention this, being AS doesn't mean you don't want to be closer to other people, it just means it's harder for you to do so.

I find that I have much greater mental and emotional stability when I remain close to a small community of people who care about me a lot. In terms of romantic relationship, it feels good to be understood and listened to, and to engage in mutual supportiveness, and to dream and plan about what things we might accomplish together. Personally I also think sex, at least for me, is a much better idea in the context of a relationship.

There are also some other activities (salsa dancing, or studying Nietzsche, anyone?) which can be made much more pleasant, easier, or more fulfilling with a consistent partner to share them with.

I haven't been in a relationship, but it seems that we're just like NT's in this respect.

Companionship. Someone who "gets" me. Love. Sex. A partner in this cruel world

The kids seem to like us together as well. Our son calls us "mama-dada dada-mama" as if we are one.

Affection.
And from that, confirmation.
And from that, self-assurance.
And from that, self-confidence.

And from that, eventually better girlfriends. (But that's only in some cases)

I am in a relationship, and I am getting so much out of it. Companionship is a big part of it - just someone to hang out with and to do fun things with. Inspiration - she is a very talented singer-songwriter, and while I have great talent in music, I have for a long time been too scared to pursue it seriously, but her example is helping me to change that. Understanding - we are very open and share a tremendous amount of our innermost thoughts and feelings, and it's such a release to feel like someone understands you and that you can share what's really going on inside your mind and heart with a caring partner. Stimulation - we have great intellectual conversations, and we help each other to stay active ("Hey, let's go to the museum today" etc.). And, finally, sex. In all seriousness, there is something magical about physical contact - just holding someone and being held in return can do wonders for the psyche.