Any AS guys manage to become "bad boys?"

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You know... "jerks"... the guys who act like pricks and get lots of women. I don't know if it is even possible, we're so literal and deep with everything we say. I have had girls tell me "I am more comfortable around guys when they're mean to me"... I don't get it. Any guys here manage to become one of those guys you always hear about, and start getting lots of women?

I don't think you have to be a jerk, where did you get that idea from?

It's more of a confidence thing I think.

I think that sort of goes along with this post:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt63120.html

Sure I met a guy online and we hit it off pretty good.

As a radio Disc Jockey back in the days when local radio still seemed important, I found the studio request line to be an amazing tool for meeting girls, because I could get to know them a bit before I had to actually meet them face-to-face. I was never a jerk to them, though - that capacity just doesn't exhibit in me unless I've become extremely agitated. Even if I met them and there was no attraction at all, I tried to be friendly and nice and extricate from the situation as gracefully as possible. In fact, I found that while the whole "chicks dig jerks" thing does seem to be rule-of-thumb true (especially in developing relationships), I had pretty good luck being a nice guy, too. It works best, though, if developing a long term relationship is not your ultimate goal.

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Charlie Sheen

I don't know where you got the girls are only intersted in jerks. A lot of NT girls seem to be, though, so if that's what you're looking for, you might have a bit of a problem.

Most of the girls I know are actually looking for someone "deep." Maybe I just hang out with a different type of crowd than you do.

Have you ever tried meeting girls at "intellectual" type events?

I believe this is the reason being a "womanizer" is often a trait of anti-social personality disorder(sociopath).

Women are attracted to guys with ASPD.

deep = depressed, whiny young ultra-sensitive psuedo-poet = Emo.

NOT: educated, well-read, capable of philosophical discussion of the spiritual implications of quantum probabilities in particle physics in relation to the Jungian archetypal symbols recurring across religious thought from primitive bear cults to schools of modern mysticism.

never met a chick yet who actually wanted THAT, no matter what they say.

^So you're saying it's bad to be deep?

I don't think you'll have much luck with intelligent women. I'm not ruling it out entirely, because of course I haven't met them all, but I used to think the answer to my dating problems, or more to the point lack of dating problems was to look for intelligent women. Turns out intelligent women don't look for intelligent men. They call the men they're looking for "intelligent" anyway, but that's a delusion. They're looking for a meat head with a "witty" sense of humour. You know the type, a guy who gets good grades and sits around telling crappy jokes at other people's expense that only women laugh at, but doesn't possess enough logic or actual intelligence to fill a capillary tube.

I'm saying the women who say they want deep, don't have any clear conception of what deep is. They're too shallow themselves to even get deep. They're looking for a guy with wet toes, not the ones sittin' on the seabed.

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High-five Daewoodrow, I concur wholeheartedly! What you said!

Wow coming from a guy that's brilliant. Men know all about women and their values even if a woman disagrees. Brilliant, I must say.

Sad, but the OP does have a point, there are plenty of women who are attracted to guys who treat them like dirt. It goes away to a certain extent as you get older. Younger women will put up with a LOT OF CRAP for no obvious reason. I remember getting dumped a few times as a teenager because I was "a better friend than a boyfriend" only to have her run off with a guy that treated her like toilet paper.

I don't know these things because I'm male, I know them because I've experienced them for 49 years, as opposed to 26.

But that was a wicked dig. Look at me, 'm bleeding.