Should I go out with him?

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A few weeks ago I met this guy... very attractive, very sweet, very interested in me, almost too eager. A mutual friend we both have warned me that he's full of himself, that he's hit on another girl in the exact same way, that he has almost no consideration for others... well, you get the idea.

I think a lot of this is based on the fact that the two had a falling out earlier this year. Should I make plans with this guy though? He's still really interested in seeing me...

Give him a chance. I mean, as long as you don't do anything dangerous, you don't have too much to lose. Don't judge based on hearsay.

Edit: come to think of it, will there be serious issues between you and the "mutual friend" if you give the other guy a shot?

Just do it and stop thinking so much about such an irrational feeling as love.

I don't think so... she was just giving me a warning as a friend, because she cares about me. There is a possibility that our friendship could suffer a teeny bit though, like a sort of unspoken awkwardness.

I'm thinking maybe I'll give him a chance, but I'm not too interested in him (apart from him being really attractive). From a different view, though, this may not seem worth it. This looks a lot like my last relationship, and that didn't turn out very well. I mean, we'll see.

Stop thinking about it. You're going to spend your whole life thinking, and never taking any action. Its love, does it really need to be thought about?

No , reject him.

Why?

Because I am evil!

never trust your friends. they will try and deceive you when it benefits them and oddly enough the fact that they're your friend will make them more comfortable doing it.

Go out with him, decide if he's a bastard for yourself.

It seems to me you should go out with this guy if you want to have some fun with someone looking good. There is not much suggesting at this time there is a lot more in it. Especially his way of seduction. On the other hand I am judging this from the few things you write, not from the person. If the fun is enough why not ofcourse?

FYI sociopathes are very attracted to people with AS.

I thikn some of the guys here who are recommending it are speaking from being rejected themselves for "unfounded and stuipid reasons"...being a sociopath,egotistical and a player happen to be "good" reasons. All female friends are not evil. It sounds like your friend is being more objective(possibly after having fallen for the influence of his good looks originally?) and wants tp prevent you from being hurt.

I am a sucker for a "pretty face" but I have paid the price for that weakness,so I am just speaking from my experience. Good looks don't =evil anymore then bad lucks =nice...I learned that to. We also tend to be attracted to the same kind of situations in a chance to "undo" past bad things....weird but true human behavior.

If you think you will regret saying no, just make sure your in a safe place for the date.

You're young, try it and have fun. If you don't like the way he acts or treats you, you can always dump him.

From my experience the above is true.

What exactly made them fall apart? Any specific horrible downfall with him, or did they just not work?
I'd think to try it, and remember your friend at one point thought he was worth taking a chance on.

I don't know exactly what happened. She's actually dating a guy he went to high school with, and she's been with this guy for a while, so I don't think they were ever actually dating. I'm betting something more friendship-wise, or maybe he's hit on a bunch of her friends, I don't know.

I'd say you should get more info from yer friend, and if ya still feel like it, try a get together in a public place. The information from your friend should be looked at objectively, as well as the information you receive if you do end up meeting up, since biases can cause a fair bit of trouble. When in doubt, ask the individual in question what they mean/feel/etc...

Hey go out with the guy, get to know him and make your own mind up.

So what did you end up doing? BTW-whats the story with your username, eH? I <3 bowtiepumps on women but NOT in pink