Indecision. I don't know if I love my ex.

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Ok, so here's my story:

(I know it may sound stupid but I can't deal with it on my own)

For the last few weeks I had been thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend of two years. A part of me thought I didn't love him anymore. I didn't enjoy sex either and I'm not sure about my sexual orientation. But since everything else went well and because I like him a lot, I didn't say anything about breaking up.

Yesterday he told me he had noticed I wasn't showing any affection and asked whether we should be just friends. I said it would actually be better for us if we were friends.

Now he's away because he needs to 'get over me' and I've been crying all day (I don't even know why I'm crying!). I just want to hug him

The worst thing is that I'm still not sure whether I love him or not. I'm also afraid that he'll not want to be friends with me. And he was my only friend. He understood me really well and he had a lot in common. I'm really scared of losing him.

If only I wasn't so indecisive! Is it normal not to be sure whether you love someone or not? Should I ask him to give me a chance (I know he still loves me) or just get over it?

I'm 23 and he was my first partner.

I've no idea what to do

You wanted to break up with him you said so yourself.

My advice, keep away from him you are only going to make things messy for you and him.

It is normal, I think - these things are difficult.
After two years, it shouldn't be the typical "cold feet" anymore - I mean getting scared by your feelings. It seems to be the real thing, so I hope you'll be able to be just friends. Otherwise say goodbye forever.

It is normal not to know if you love someone or not
trust me on that one
I think you still have affection for him, he was your first partner and you went out with him for two years. I don't think you still love him though.
I think you can remain friends. But it will be hard.
good luck anways
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Yes.



No.



This.

You were unhappy in the relationship. You don't even know if it's guys you want. Even if the emotional love is still there, lots was missing from this relationship. Plus, picking him up and putting him down like a yo-yo isn't going to be great for his self esteem. He could - justifiably - be paranoid from this point on about being with you at all, and never knowing if you'll get sick of him again, for lack of a softer way of putting it.

He was your first partner. Things weren't working. And yes, everyone feels like this after a break-up.

You'll be fine. If you still feel this way in a year, then maybe you made a mistake. But give yourself time to heal, to let both of you think about this logically and then reconsider.

Phew, I'm glad it's normal. Thanks for the tips
I'll try to be friends then.

Yeah, just give it time. The feeling, I think, isn't that you still love him, but rather you associate him with your first loving relationship. That feeling of having someone is what you love, I think....

I could be totally wrong though. XD