Aspies and their "Shadow"

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A friend of mine is an aspie and he talks about his "shadow" which he can't take out into public even at a relatives house for a glass of wine.

What does he mean by that? Please explain.

What are me mind readers?

Ah yes I remember...his shadow is an obnoxious bastard always belittling him, probably best if you keep him locked the broom closet.

Sorry I have never heard of that term, shadow, it must just be a quirk your friend has, maybe just a fear of people or places. I also have a fear of crowds, and can't stand going into mall on weekends, or even meeting new people.

His evil twin? Or maybe he is just refering to a part of himself that for some reason doesn't belong in public, like anger.

But if you really want to know you should ask him not us.

I would guess he is saying that a large part of his identity or personality cannot be show to or shared with others. This may be because it would bother others or be considered inappropriate, or because he feels others cannot understand that part of him. I know I feel this way around a lot of people.

This is just my best guess, though. You have to ask him, as the others here have said.

Well, I have two distinct personalities. One is my autistic personality, which almost no one ever sees. It's who I get to be when I get home from work in the evening and I don't have to be concerned with how people are perceiving me. My other personality is who I am in public. That personality is more extroverted and behaves in a manner more consistant with social norms.

My deepest nature is incompatible with society, over the years I've developed a social me, that always feels fake, the shadow thing makes a lot of sense to me, I would define it as the true me.

it's the person who holds up the other side of the conversation in your inner monolog...

lol if it like the game earthbound, its an evil gold statue will all the same powers as him LOL

ive never heard that before.....

xx

Maybe he's referring to that cold, dark, calculating part of a person they kep inside. The part of you that sees the world and the people on it as nothing but objects to be manipulated for your own self-justified uses.

I haven't heard the expression myself, but I would guess that he means he's a depressing person to be around, in that he casts a shadow. ???

I split myself. For a protection/survival thing. People that have earned my trust get to see me, people that don't get mask me. Complete and utter strangers sometimes get to see me if i am in a really good mood or a really bad one.

So i can see him calling something his shadow, unless he's just gone over the deep end and has lost all touch with reality. You really just need to ask him.

I have my (real) AS personality and an NT mask. As a child the AS personality was more dominant but over the years the NT mask has become more encompassing. Sometimes I feel like I've had to hide the AS part of me so much that I don't even know who I am so its not always healthy to leave your shadow at home. Bring it to the party and see how long people last!