Anyone wish they were NT?

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I think there is a lot of stereotyping on here that all NTs are loud party-animals that are rude to their own kind and especially to people who aren't like them. My brother is NT, is a year younger than me, and is a nice guy that isn't a tool and is an individual.

I personally wish whatever was "different" about me in appearance, body language, behavior, and speech would go away. Sure, then I would have to make a life in the real world and wouldn't have any setbacks to use as excuses, but I'd rather blend in and be "normal" than live the current life I'm living.

To get this on the topic of love and dating...I am attracted to NT women. I don't mean the stereotypical college-aged party girl that has no substance...or extremely outgoing women...I just mean normal women that don't have quirks. I honestly think while there are a lot of pricks out there, there are a lot of pricks that aren't NT as well. To quote Hope, it isn't an NT or Aspie thing.

The reason I don't identify with a lot of people isn't because I have Aspergers. It's because I'm a nice person, and only identify with other nice people. I can't fathom how people can be so mean to each other. Sure, I'm guilty of being judgmental at times, but that's usually about people on TV...actors or athletes that make more money than most people will ever see in their life, and to me, I have the right to judge them. As far as regular people, I couldn't fathom making fun of a person at work or in a classroom, unless they were overtly doing something to stand out...like being a white gangster or something, and I wouldn't do it with them around, I might just do it talking to a mutual acquaintence in a private setting.

Anyway, I guess my point is, I personally wish I was neurotypical and was never bullied and just led a relatively normal life, and thought the way most people do. I mean, like I said, my brother is NT, but he has his random interests and isn't a tool. He just doesn't have the physical quirks and is better looking than me.

I don't wish I was NT. Having AS is part of me and makes me be me.

How you look has nothing to do with having AS.

I also don't limit myself to people. I can get along with NTs if they are not ignorant and they are nice people and accept everyone for who they are. Even some of them have their quirks. I get along with my mother and she is NT. I don't need someone to be aspie or NT or have other conditions for me to relate to them.

I can't help being aspiesexual though. Shame my hubby isn't one but he calls himself it to turn me on.


What do you mean by tool? A jerk?

I admit that I do wish I was NT. Id still like to be myself but just suddently be able to read and show body language, nonverbals and to understand all the aspects of communication that I dont get. I dont want to completely become a different person, Id just like to get more out of life.

The only part of NT that I wish I had is the social proficiencies that they usually possess. The ability to make friends and get into stimulating conversations and get what I want. I hate being an aspie for that reason. It is impossible for me to connect with anybody, to get to know them, so that I can really pick my friends... Or just have friends in general. Right now, I have no friends, no one in my family gives a s**t about me. It's no wonder I have to fight the urge to break down and destroy things every day of my life. I am suffering because I am an aspie, and the world's cruel ways.

So yes, I wish I were NT. Who cares if I'm smart enough to avoid drugs, drinking, and want to get an education? I feel like life is meaningless without any friends or the desire to pursue my interests.

See, I was bullied for the way I look. I'm not classically ugly, but I look like someone who would stand out, both looks wise and body language wise. Then on top of it I have the Aspie traits as far as lack of common sense, inability to focus, etc. I just wish I was born a regular version of myself, no quirks or AS qualities or AS type of looks.

What WOULDN'T I give up to be NT?

Being 100% NT must be boring.

As tempting as the idea is, no, I don't wish I was NT. For better or worse, AS is part of who I am, and I wouldn't want to lose my identity.

There is no such thing as 100% NT and 100% aspie.

NEVER!

I'll take my uniqueness over being like one of them any day.

Of course I do but im learning to just accept what I am and just be the best person I can be.

Yes I think my life would be easier in some aspects. Relationships are founded on most of teh aspects I'm weak at like communicating, reading signals, reciprocating, inflection of voice, eye contact, etc.

I'm not going to say I despise having aspergers but it does get in the way.

If there was some mysterious pill that irreversibly made my "AS" go away, I would be afraid that if I were to take it my personality would change and I would lose all of my friends. And then, to top it all off, find no significant change in my fortunes with the opposite sex.

I diagnosed myself with Asperger's Syndrome, so maybe it's just me but while living a life where I thought i was a NT it seemed boring for me, but now I know that I obviously wasn't a NT so I guess living with AS is boring, but really if you think about it, we will never fully understand what it is like to be an NT and a NT will never fully understand what it is like to be us. So I see it as this: Being AS should never stop us from being the people we want to be, and maybe you may find it hard this way but think of this; People with AS may have had trouble finding friends and true love, but we still had successful people AS right? What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't let something that makes us act differently than how NT's act stop us from being an AS who can be successful, and when I mean successful I don't mean being in a history book, because i never wanted to be a famous person when i was younger, I don't even know what I want to be now and I'm 16. I have hope that even though I'm not exactly sure if I have AS, I can change maybe in like a month from being an outcast to being a person everyone wants to hangout with
And so that you will understand me, the definition of hope I go by is To wish for something with expectation of its fulfillment. And it doesn't say anywhere in the world that people with AS can not hope, it's basically what you do to let your dreams come true and we can dream too, so really all I'm trying to say is that yes I do want to be a NT but I am an AS and if I want to be an NT I can be one if i try.

DON'T LET ANYONE AND ANYTHING STOP YOU FROM BEING WHO YOU WANT TO BE SO YOU CAN'T GIVE UP AND DO NOT LET THE REST OF YOUR LIFE GO TO WASTE! CHERISH EVERY MOMENT!