so there's this boy....help

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there is this boy i really like and could possibly love named will. i have known him for 7 years now and he constantly flirts with me and its killing me. i don't really know what to do. i know that i should just wait for him because i don't want anyone else..but how do i know he won't fall for anyone but me?

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the story goes:: we used to carpool to school and my mom always notices the way that we act towards each other. i have only just noticed that i have loved him for all these years because i took a step back out of my bubble and looked at the two of us. my mom has a sense for these things and she can tell that he really really likes me or even possibly loves me back. him and i just don't talk about it. we have a really strong friendship. i'm afraid to lose him but i've learned that if i try to make the first move he'll just run away.

the other day i was hanging out with him and he did something he has never done before. we were backstage in the school's theatre and i went to leave. he put his arm out to stop me and he twirled me into his arms and held me close. he put his cheek on mine and said "where are you going?" it was really cute but now i'm just even more confused... help!

I know the feeling. It looks like he does like you. I wouldn't know though b/c this is what you're putting down.

I'm an aspie which makes it a little hard for me to break that external shell called friendship. Easy said than done, I'd just get serious with him and ask him how he feels about you. Then tell him or hint how you feel about him. This sounds like a potential, but don't do it because you think you have to. Do it if you really have feelings for this guys.

I think my mistakes are mainly b/c I feel like I have to. I don't think romantic relationships are much like what they post on the media. For some of us, it takes time and if one can not respect that, then they're probably not worth your while. Not that they're bad, you just might be on a different level than them. By what you said, again, it sounds like he may have the same feelings for you and is also feeling closed up about it or shy?

that sounds like a good plan. i have tried something of the sort before and he'll distance himself for like 2 days and then he'll be fine and talk to me again. i feel like he's afraid of his feelings for me.

^Does he have aspergers?

I'm just curious b/c I've done that myself when a guy would express a crush on me. It does sound like he has a thing for you.

i don't know if he does..he might but i haven't seen any symptoms in him

I guess he could also be shy about it. Just wanted to wish you luck. I'm sure you'll have more feedback on this thread.

Well, I don't know how much help I could be for you, but I can tell you that if he has feelings for you he's unlikely to make the first move, because you've been friends for such a long time. Men like knowing what's going to happen when they declare their feelings to a woman. He would be terrified of losing you altogether. So you might end up waiting a long time if you want him to declare his feelings for you.
The complicating factor is that you said he gets more distant when you try and get more romantic. Without knowing him, I couldn't really guess why that is.

The way I see it, you have two choices. You can either tell him how you feel, and risk making things awkward, or you can keep waiting, and risk never finding out how he felt. None of us can help you make that decision.

i actually just read one of our old conversations. i switched schools a few weeks ago and i told him over facebook.

Elizabeth Grace Kiley:
hey.. im leaving CA
im moving to stamford with my dad
so this is my goodbye
im starting school monday...
something i wanted you to know was that i really liked you... since like you were in 4th grade...i was in 5th haha..
well...goobye will

Will Blasini:
rly? wow gud luck at ur new school and hav fun i hope u hav a gud time ther


... i think he might have seen how much i really meant to him after i was gone. it was monday that he did the "where are you going" thing

He's probably in the situation I'm in right now. I have been in love with the same woman for over 6 years now, and while I can easily be around her as a friend (and even playfully hit on her at times), I still am too shy to get serious with her. My main pitfall there is that I don't know if she truly loves me back, or she is just playing along and I'm making her uncomfortable. It's even harder since she turned me down once (back when I was 14, and too naive to really understand), but the rejection came with a "maybe later" type of string attached...

What I would say is let him know that you love him, or, at the very least, let him know that you wouldn't reject him, since most men that don't ask are usually afraid of such...

...from where you girls get this famously wrong idea???? Guys don't run away when they are approached , girls do sometimes...

^I don't think that's an idea, I think that was an actual experience that happened to her.

Yeah but she's not wise enough to understand that, she's stereotyping an immature male. A few young immature guys 'run away' but that's probably only because he's got issues like being sShy/anxious about girls / and being liked by them, or is mean because he's not interested in her for some unstated reasons.

She can't apply these little rules to every guy, many guys are relieved when women make the effort. After all they are the ones that take the majority of the rejections.

this is an actual experience with him.. i have approached him in the past and he has stayed clear of me for a day or two and then he was fine.

What could he be affraid of? Do you flirt with other boys in front of him to make him jealous?

^ If you really don't agree, there's better ways of stating your opinion without putting someone down like that.

miss e said "i feel like he's afraid of his feelings for me" so I do agree. Just asking a couple questions trying to help.