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29 Apr 2008, 8:29 pm

i was just reading a thread in this section and it got me thinking about this girl i was interested in in high school.

so i was in grade 12 at a boarding school. there was a girl there named Nastia (yes, strange name to us english folk, it's short for Anastasia) and i developed a liking for her. we spent a lot of time together at school, i'd sit at the same table as her for breakfast, along with a few other of our friends, i had a spare with her and we'd usually talk and hang out during it, i'd usually eat dinner with her and the same people, and we'd occasionally hang out after school hours.

anyways i had self esteem issues, i didn't think i was attractive enough for someone to like me, so i never asked her out. the summer came along and i didn't spend much time with her but a couple of times she told me to call her, or invited me to hang out. once we were supposed to go for dinner and a movie but my car broke down so we just went to dinner and walked back to her place where i got a ride home after an hour or so.

after a month or so she met someone and started dating him. this got me kind of angry because i liked her and had decided to ask her out the next week. at some point she said "well i wasn't going to wait forever" so i guess she liked me too but i didn't know it.

so my questions are: do you think she considered those times she invited me over and that time we went out for dinner "dates"? i just thought we were hanging out, like she said, but looking back i think she thought they were dates. and do you think the fact that i didn't really follow up on those lead her to believe that i wasn't interested in her?



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29 Apr 2008, 8:59 pm

beef_bourito wrote:
i was just reading a thread in this section and it got me thinking about this girl i was interested in in high school.

so i was in grade 12 at a boarding school. there was a girl there named Nastia (yes, strange name to us english folk, it's short for Anastasia) and i developed a liking for her. we spent a lot of time together at school, i'd sit at the same table as her for breakfast, along with a few other of our friends, i had a spare with her and we'd usually talk and hang out during it, i'd usually eat dinner with her and the same people, and we'd occasionally hang out after school hours.

anyways i had self esteem issues, i didn't think i was attractive enough for someone to like me, so i never asked her out. the summer came along and i didn't spend much time with her but a couple of times she told me to call her, or invited me to hang out. once we were supposed to go for dinner and a movie but my car broke down so we just went to dinner and walked back to her place where i got a ride home after an hour or so.

after a month or so she met someone and started dating him. this got me kind of angry because i liked her and had decided to ask her out the next week. at some point she said "well i wasn't going to wait forever" so i guess she liked me too but i didn't know it.

so my questions are: do you think she considered those times she invited me over and that time we went out for dinner "dates"? i just thought we were hanging out, like she said, but looking back i think she thought they were dates. and do you think the fact that i didn't really follow up on those lead her to believe that i wasn't interested in her?


Well the thing is I can only assume since I don't know her I don't think she considered it dates but she wanted you to ask her out. I think she had a thing for you but didn't want to be forward so then guy who didn't have the self esteem issues you were having did and she said I may be waiting for something that may never happen so let me try this. In the end lifes too short to be self concious just go for it I ask women out all the time with varying results but even if we don't try at a relationship we always end up friends.