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Brandon_M
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27 Apr 2008, 3:17 pm

Okay, so there was a girl who was interested in me for the longest time. I know this because my sister told me she was always asking about me. She liked me from meeting me once and there it stayed up until about two and a half months ago. She sent me a message on myspace and I invited her to my house where we drink every friday. She accepted and from then on we started going from partying together on the weekends to late night phone conversations. She told me she had feelings for me and they were returned. However, somewhere along the line things between us just stopped. The last time I saw her, we were at my house partying as usual. She dragged me upstairs into a room and one thing led to another...but I couldn't go through with it. For one, she was pretty drunk and for another I wanted to wait for a relationship to do anything. That was the last time I saw her again. We talked on the phone a couple of times since (she called me twice, I called her once), but that's about it. She cancelled all three dates we had set last minute because something came up. Somewhere along the line, she had lost interest, which proves I am incapable of starting or carrying a relationship. If I had went through with it in the room would things have been different? Or was it simply because I bored/frustrated her and she didn't know where it was going? Either way, I have a hard time with this and although I shouldn't take it as such a critical blow, it's hard not to when it was really the first time I took a chance with relationships. I had taken some minor chances with them before, but this was the first time I had actually really pursued someone and it bothers me that I don't even know what went wrong there.



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27 Apr 2008, 4:44 pm

girls have physical needs the same as boys and maybe she was wanting to fulfill them with you for a long time but then thought if it wasn't going to happen she would have to look elsewhere. It sounds like you had spent a lot of time together and maybe she thought you were in a relationship even if it had not been officially labelled as one.


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27 Apr 2008, 5:01 pm

Nothing good can come from a relationship fueled by alcohol and a girl in a drunken state of mind. What you need is a girl who will love you for all your good qualities and imperfections...

Girls are like public transportation buses...if you miss one, don't fret. Another one will come along shortly...just be patient for the
right one to come your way.



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27 Apr 2008, 6:16 pm

I tend to think if a relationship cannot exist without sex, then how much else can there be?
Still, Alexbeetle makes a good point.

It's good that you have had this experience though. And it's good that you were able to take that initiative, as it'll get you somewhere eventually.



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27 Apr 2008, 7:19 pm

Tell her your feelings, and that that awkward drunk moment you stopped because you respect her

good luck ;)


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27 Apr 2008, 7:56 pm

Thanks everyone, but i'm not sure that issue was the reason though, i'm just not sure if it played into it or just gave her the wrong idea. It's not that I didn't want to, I just didn't at the moment. Still, she seemed to have took it wrong and I should've talked to her about it.

I think it may have been because I became a different person around her. I was more reserved and afraid to express simple things like my sense of humor because I didn't want her to think less of me. Crazy as it sounds, it wasn't that I held back intentionally, it was just a nagging instinct to become somewhat reserved with my actions and what I said. I don't even know i'm doing it sometimes and I certainly don't mean to, but it's been persistent throughout my life around someone i'm interested in. Ironically enough, that's probably what steered her away. Plus that, she was probably sending many signals I didn't pick up on. I've been getting better and trusting instinct more, but it still happens.

Even so, it's been about three weeks since we last saw one another and at least two since we last spoken so it's really too late to tell her how I feel without sounding crazy, it's just I felt bad for letting things end on such a bad note.