Just an interesting thought I've had for a long time. People always seem to look upon aspies and say that they are on the outside looking in, or something to that effect. Long before I know I was likely AS, I remember staying inside from recess when circumstances provided me with a teacher sympathetic to the torture that recess was. Not liking the outdoors combined with being an aspie in public school meant that recess was basically the situational equivalent of having your own fist flung in your face over and over again by your older brother while he asks why you won't stop hitting yourself. It hurt, and people were wondering why you couldn't see how much it DIDN'T hurt. Anyway, I was often on the inside looking out. The others were outsiders, if you're going by what the word should mean if taken literally. They were outside. They always wanted to go outside and do things outside and talked about what a nice day it was outside. Outside was not, to them, full of sunburns, biting cold, animals and insects who wished to harm them, allergies that wouldn't let them breathe or see well, or physical challenges that were too daunting to attempt. No, to them, outside was where it was at and where they were happiest. So they were the outsiders, and I was in the insider. No one on the outside, in this context, was ever looking in. They were having too much fun playing sports or doing their NT things.
Why is it appropriate for this particular section to post this?
Because I'll bring it right around.
The appeal of dating an aspie woman can be summed up as the possibility of this metaphorical situation happening. I'm still on the inside, looking out, and in comes another insider and she likes me enough to stay. That's not 100% of what makes a good relationship, I know. It's most of the way there for me though.
-Frank
30 Apr 2008, 11:49 am
