Should Aspies love?

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I' ve always pondered this, and was wondering what everyone else thought of it.

Depends entirely on the individuals and circumstances involved; it's not like there's a clear "yes" or "no" just for aspies in general.

I've found it very hard to trust men, since that horrible experience that I've had, in college.

I don't know. I've been questioning myself about that lately. I don't think it's a question of should but want. Aspie or not, who wants to be in a relationship if it just becomes miserable and then who would not want a relationship that fills the void.

Yes, even though it's hard. Love is one emotion that's hard for everyone on the planet though.

The answer is 'yes'. "Unfortunately", most aspies have the same basic needs as the NTs, which makes it very hard to have the disorder.

I think what he means is "are Aspies capable of being in relationships?". My answer is yes.

Everybody loves in their own way, on or off the autism spectrum the world is full of many diversities. As for being in a relationship thats up to the individuals to decide and many factors come into this.

Ideally everyone should be in a loving relationship, but life's not like that...

I am an aspie and have been in a loving relationship for many years...

But each person thoughts on what that is and how it is perceived may be different!

The thing about love is, as some others here have said, it's very hard for everyone. I've talked to my dad about issues I've had and he says they're perfectly normal.

I tend to think everyone should love, romantically or not. Still some might be content to be alone based on how their mind works and what their situation is.

Understanding the opposite gender is hard enough when you're a NT, but it's even harder when you're an aspie.

I think your answer to this question likely depends on your age and life experience. Once I would have argued vehemently in favor of the idea, believing that the white-picket-fence and 2.5 kids happily-ever-after was the reason for living. After three marriages and a couple or three live-in relationships, I'm firmly convinced some of us are just better off being alone in our own space. Sometimes the best relationship you can have is a good friend f***buddy you can hookup with once or twice a week, who leaves you to your own devices the rest of the time.

On the other hand, I've never known another Aspie personally, so I can't say how two of them might or might not get along. Maybe that would be more workable.

Just because you're soulmates doesn't mean you were meant to share this life in romantic bliss. If Romeo and Juliet are the icons of true love, never forget how their story ended.

If there was a pill that could remove all emotions, I'd take it in a second.

I dunno... My boyfriend is diagnosed with Asperger's and we get along just fine. I love him lots and he loves me... I'm inclined to say yes, if they want to.

There is no reason aspie's shouldn't love. If they find someone that truly makes them happy, they deserve to be with them.

I cannot vote because there are two different questions here.

Why shouldn't we have relationships, we our human after all! At one point i thought, after reading some thing on line, that said autistic people were mostly asexual or not very sexual people, so I thought well every thing else fits, but i guess I’m not autistic then. Then I came here and read more, and I’ve never met a group of more horney people in all my life! And thought,Wola! We have a winner!
Just because you have trouble socializing doesn’t mean you don't have human needs for companionship, love, and sex. every one needs love!
I for one am very high maintenance, but, I don't really want to open my self up to allot of people, alot of social stuff or a lot of that girl friend relationship drama, i just wood like to be close to one person, but yes very much need and want that one relationship, and i seem to get along better with guys as friends anyways , I just think that, what would be better than your lover being your best friend? And I know that there are allot of guys out there that want to have there sports and fishing and hunting male bonding thing, but I 'm still hoping that there is one guy out there left that would just like to do some female bonding!
So I’m for “A” relationship!