Commitment to Infatuation

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I wanted to talk about this because I feel like it's happened to me a few times.

What happens to me is I spend a lot of time pining away for whomever is my current infatuation, and I know that I'll never have the guts to talk to them, and there's little chance they'll ever approach me for any reason.

Then, out of some miracle, someone does approach me, but because I'm too preoccupied with these other people, I basically ignore it. Sometimes I don't really care for the person who approached me. One time I believe (though the message was sort of anonymous) it was a person I'd had an interest in before, but had moved on to another person (since it was anonymous I didn't even have the courage to ask if it was them).

Anyways, is this a common occurrence, and how do you people deal with it?

i can relate to some degree. when i'm interested in a person i do spend a lot of time thinking about it, and it's hard to focus on all the options, so i can really only be interested in one person at a time. this doesn't mean i'm not attracted to others, it's just that my focus only really lies with one person. i'll still talk to other girls, i just won't really be interested in them unless my focus shifts from my current interest to the new one.

I used to do that in high school... and i actually think that the stand-offish attitude I had with other women was a turn-on for some...

Nowadays I don't develop attractions to women unless I've known them for some time... but when I do, I can't get my mind off of them. Ever.