what's a crush like?

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I don't think anyone's ever had a crush on me. It makes me sad sometimes that no one's ever pursued me for a date or to be their boyfriend. I guess the closest thing would be my wife requesting me when calling for a cab and me asking her out.

What's it like to be so attractive to someone that they can't resist asking you out?

Just a crush is a little different than that.. a lot of people keep their crushes secret so you'll never know.

But unfortunately I'm not sure what it's like to be irresistably sexy.

Has anyone had a crush on me?
Yeah, there was this one really quiet asian girl in my grade who was stalking me for some time, but I ran like the wind for that because she was heavy into drugs, etc, etc.

Have I ever had a crush?
Yes. It's... a bittersweet experience. If your life is lonely and hopeless, (you have a wife, you dont need it), then it's nice to have. It's a new flavor for your thoughts... er... I think if you really want to see what it is, read Don Quixote.

...Of course, all my advice ends with "Read Don Quixote", so take it with a grain of salt.
... ... For that matter, I really dont understand that expression, because I love salt, and always take everything with one+ grains.

I have no idea what a crush feels like. I know what being in love feels like, which can be very good and exciting or very annoying or very sad.
A friend has a big crush on me at the moment. I know this because he told me more than a few times and very explicitly too and I didn't believe him at first.
I have no idea how to react and what to do, or say.

I've heard rumors about folks being CRAZY about me, but I can't seem nor don't want to return the favor.

No-one's ever had a crush on me since I've been able to understand it. So for me it was just confusing. I wasn't even flattered I just couldn't work out what she wanted.

On the other end it's beautiful in a sad way. There's someone who brightens your life just by being there but you can't spend much time with them for fear of freaking them out.

wen people have crushes on me, im just like w/e. im not for the girls at th camp ground since i wont see em during high school

A crush is what happens when one person lets their physical feelings for someone get out of hand. One particular person's physical attraction to another diminishes over time, that's why crushes aren't particularly long lasting...

where to draw the line between a crush and a real attraction? The line is sometimes blurred.

That said, I like a crush. It just feeds your desire and your dreams. It fills you with excitement when dreaming and fantasising about me being together with this girl, and fills me with romantic sweet dreams. Even when lasting only for a short period of time before reality crawls in, I like that feeling of excitement and the energy it brings me.

Someone having a crush on me? Only happened once, and she said she was in love. Apparently I am by no means drop dead gorgeous

People tell me I'm attractive, but no one's had a real crush on me as of yet.
There've just been people who had nothing in common with me who wanted me in bed.
Not the same thing at all
Every girl who's actually smart enough, nice enough, cool enough and cute enough that I'd consider them a possibility has a boyfriend.

I have never been in love but I have had a few crushes over the years, it feels pretty good though I haven't had one in about 7 years I guess.

Whether or not someone has ever had a crush on me or if they just lusted after me/or wanted a brief distraction I don't know.

It's usually when I think "hey I really like this person and would like to be with them more", basically. I got over a few of my more shallow crushes in my early to mid-teens but apart from that, in general if I have a crush on you now I'll probably always fancy you at least a little bit.

I'm not sure how it is with women, but many if not most young men are not used to having women being openly attracted to them and have to initiate themselves. I've read many accounts of straight men being approached by gay men and finding themselves unsure how to react or not even aware of what's happening, because women would never do this to them. Either women in general have very little desire for men compared to male desire for women, or a lot of it is kept secret and the latter account for me strikes me as being more believable.

I disagree with a crush necessarily being physical attraction only. I often see pretty girls that I would like to approach (but I lack the guts to do it) but I forget them only minutes after. If a girl is in my head for several days or weeks, it is usually after a short chat and the feeling we have at least some stuff in common and maybe something could grow. That is what I would call a crush: I don't know her well enough to know if we have enough in common for a relationship, but I know we have SOMETHING in common and that the chance for more exists... once you then have a happy feeling and start daydreaming about her without really knowing how big that chance for a relationship is: that is what I would define as a crush.