Does anyone else not miss their partner?

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My boyfriend always misses me when I am at work. But we see each other everyday. It's not like I went away on a business trip. I used to think it was just him but I didn't know this was normal till I asked my mother. I don't understand why people miss their partner or spouse when they are at work, they know they are going to see them again that day.

I don't even miss my boyfriend when he is at work. Why should I miss him if he is going to be home the next morning (he works graveyard) and I know I am going to see him again when he wakes up. I see him everyday. Is anyone else the same way about their partner or spouse?

I've never had a said partner to miss, however I'd agree with what you said. I'm pretty sure it would take a week or more before I started missing someone myself.

In my opinion, it's a social convention to miss your partner when s/he is away, even for one hour. You're supposed to say "I miss you (already)" at the end of phone conversation, and "I've missed you" when you are back together.

I am quite sure that most people (in particular NTs) lie about it (which is the principle of most social conventions).

My wife (NT) misses me. I'm not so sure after a day of work, but I think if we're apart for a couple days. I would say that it probably takes a couple days and then I miss her company as well.

It seems to kick in after 2 or 3 days for me and for my girlfriend as well. Still neither of us says "I've missed you" or "I miss you." It's handled more like "heh... not seeing you for more than 2 or 3 days kinda sucks, doesn't it?" Response: "Yeah... it does."

I suppose it's the same thing in different words, but both of us prefer to avoid typical romantic cliches.

Well, it’s not so much that I do or don’t anticipate seeing my spouse later in the day. When I feel like I’m missing her, it’s because the hormonal changes that occur when I’m near her are so pronounced. It’s sort of like what happens when your allergy medication wears off. After a while you start to feel symptoms. When I’m away from my wife, I start to run low on oxytocin or something

Of course, after longer periods of time, like a week or so, it becomes a major lifestyle change. Since I depend on her for so much of my activities and daily communication outside myself, I start to withdraw from the world. Not the worst thing, perhaps, but it does make life a lot less dimensional. After a while I start to ponder why I bother.

When I'm at work, no. I never even thought about this. But when I'm at home and he's at work, then sometimes.

it's normal for me to miss my partner when I cannot see her/speak to her, it's love and affection

My old boyfriend and I met only once or twice a week. Once a week was a little too long a time apart for me, and I'd start missing him after three or four days. But if I saw him twice a week, I was completely satisfied.

One of the reasons I said yes, is that he leaves me alone when I need him to.

I do miss him, but it's good because I can get my stuff done. Then I can fully enjoy being with him.

I also like anticipation.

My ex-GF from a while back would ask me "Did you miss me?" too much. Apparently, "No, it's only been a few days and I like being alone sometimes." isn't the answer she wanted.

No he's still in jail thank whatever. He seemed like a nice guy but became controlling so no...

Everytime he wrote how much he missed me, I never sent anything or came to visit him.

I was amazed of my experience at the Women's Shelter. Here these women came with kids and all and violent stories yet they kept saying how much they missed their man. One girl I knew was covered in bruises with a little girl who screamed and cried whenever she made her daughter talk to her dad on the phone. It really irked me and then she got kicked b/c she eventually told him where she was!!

So maybe this is an AS trait I don't know but I'm not saying in comparison that I'm better than any of them but it doesn't take an expert to see how domestic abuse affects the kids.

Sorry I guess I went way off topic.

Anyway no.

I may not have been clear enough.
As everybody does (I suppose), I do miss my girlfriend when I cannot see her.
But what I consider as a social convention, is to miss someone after, let's say, one hour, or one day.

(as usual, sorry for my English, I am not a fluent speaker).

When I was with someone, no I didn't miss them.

I don't miss my first partner (she cheated on me). I am still friends with my second partner, but I occasionally feel guilt about ending that relationship.