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How many of you would be willing to get out of your "comfort zone?" Not an easy thing to do of course, but sometimes that's what you might need to do. Yes, I've done it a few times and it did work. Went through 2 husbands, in fact.

Seriously, I wonder if that's the problem, staying in only safe, familiar territory and not extending further because of fear.

I went out of my comfort zone so much in college that its not even funny... but I recognize my limits as in how far I can safely push myself and stick with that. This way, I can try new things and "expand my horizons" w/o risking panic attacks too much.

Well thats an easy one for me. Given that I seem to be older than the average person who is still having basic problems (the ones at the start of the relationship) because I didnt date much and then had a few problems everyone else moved on and I feel like I got left behind To me the start of dating is out of my comfort zone because they dont do it how they used to before I had "time out" I need to find some guts or I will never date anyone again !

Could you be more specific?

Meaning going to places you wouldn't normally go to, trying new things outside of your normal interests.

I rarley do this and this is one of the main reasons why I am still single. I wrote about my nervousity and shyness outside my confort zones (among other things):
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt125879.html

I think it's important to get out of your comfort zone when looking for love, but also when attempting to do other great things in life.

If you mean like try a new restaurant or venue for whatever it is you're doing when going out with a woman, sure that's perfectly fine. I went to lunch with this girl once (not a date though) at this place she liked but i had never been to. On the other hand, just going somewhere for the hell of it is something I don't do, unless it's a specific recommendation from a friend of mine.

I'm not sure that is what is being meant. One time I decided on a whim to go with a girl to a restaurant neither of us had been to and it was a bit of a disaster. Having prior knowledge of which restaurants in your area have nice food and good service would be a help.

Well I agree, and I perhaps should have done a bit more of that in college than I did. It still doesn't guarantee anything, though. In my last year in college my social circles were a bit wider and my nights out somewhat more frequent, but my love life was still dead.