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21 Nov 2005, 12:35 am

Why is it that women always seem to go around in groups and be talking in groups. This makes it really hard to ask people out when you dont want to do it in from of a couple other girls (who are probably giggling.)


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21 Nov 2005, 1:33 am

oy, having quite the same problem i am... it doesn't go away once you hit college btw


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21 Nov 2005, 7:32 am

It's the way of the world. Women are social creatures. Men tend to be more isolationists (if that's a word).

I say, if you want to talk to her, try and find a time when she's alone. If she has a class that her friends DON'T take, and that you do, that's your best bet.


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21 Nov 2005, 7:37 am

It pisses me off too. Fortunately i lack the confidence to ask anyone out anyway so it doesnt get in the way of potential relationships. I do.



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21 Nov 2005, 11:52 am

its a girl thing where we hang out with friends and go to bars in groups, for a girls night out.



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21 Nov 2005, 1:03 pm

Endersdragon wrote:
Why is it that women always seem to go around in groups and be talking in groups. This makes it really hard to ask people out when you dont want to do it in from of a couple other girls (who are probably giggling.)


Well, that can be a blessing or a curse, depending largely on whether or not you have a friend or two in that group. If you walk over and start talking to one of the girls about something and they see that she thinks highly of you (especially if she's someone who has her head together) then the effect quickly spreads and they're all guessing that you must be a hell of a cool guy. Otherwise though, if none of em know you, it means you really need enough social gloss to get arround her friends, especially if any of em are kinda abrupt and you know they're gonna try to block you (something we as aspies usually aren't gonna be up for).


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21 Nov 2005, 6:16 pm

It's a giant conspiracy directed specifically at you, endersdragon. :twisted:



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21 Nov 2005, 7:31 pm

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It's a giant conspiracy directed specifically at you, endersdragon. :twisted:


awwwwwwwwwwwwww :( :cry:


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21 Nov 2005, 7:48 pm

*puts on the nature documentary voice*

And here we have a flock of female humans, possibly the most threatenting thing the male of the species will ever encounter...


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22 Nov 2005, 8:36 am

Look, women don't ALWAYS walk around in groups, "giggling," and men do it too at times. I personally sit alone a lot and so do a couple fo ym friends until I or someone else hangs out with them. Are women not allowed to have other female friends that they hang out with? They're in groups because these groups are made up of FRIENDS. :roll:



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22 Nov 2005, 4:01 pm

Just don't try walking right into one unless you know one of them personally. Awkward situation either way.


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23 Nov 2005, 1:10 pm

Serissa wrote:
Look, women don't ALWAYS walk around in groups, "giggling," and men do it too at times. I personally sit alone a lot and so do a couple fo ym friends until I or someone else hangs out with them. Are women not allowed to have other female friends that they hang out with? They're in groups because these groups are made up of FRIENDS. :roll:

Okay, that still doesn't explain why they have to go to the bathroom in groups.



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23 Nov 2005, 1:28 pm

Sanityisoverrated wrote:
Serissa wrote:
Look, women don't ALWAYS walk around in groups, "giggling," and men do it too at times. I personally sit alone a lot and so do a couple fo ym friends until I or someone else hangs out with them. Are women not allowed to have other female friends that they hang out with? They're in groups because these groups are made up of FRIENDS. :roll:

Okay, that still doesn't explain why they have to go to the bathroom in groups.


Eh, it's something men will never understand. When we're doing our business, it's like playing gold by yourself; man against the course (the course in this situation being fecal matter.) Men don't talk because it's all business.

Although I doubt that women actually talk to eachother while releasing the chocolate hostages... :lol:



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23 Nov 2005, 9:56 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Endersdragon wrote:
Why is it that women always seem to go around in groups and be talking in groups. This makes it really hard to ask people out when you dont want to do it in from of a couple other girls (who are probably giggling.)


Well, that can be a blessing or a curse, depending largely on whether or not you have a friend or two in that group. If you walk over and start talking to one of the girls about something and they see that she thinks highly of you (especially if she's someone who has her head together) then the effect quickly spreads and they're all guessing that you must be a hell of a cool guy. Otherwise though, if none of em know you, it means you really need enough social gloss to get arround her friends, especially if any of em are kinda abrupt and you know they're gonna try to block you (something we as aspies usually aren't gonna be up for).


In some ways its a protection by numbers thing, in others its also if you look dorky and ugly to one girl in the group then they pass the word that your uncool to be seen with and from then on you may as well give up or break out the romance books (as if it done any good).



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23 Nov 2005, 10:57 pm

TES, one of my friends was telling me how he was in South Carolina at a bar and since they were both taken and really didn't care about making anything happen they both just decided to chat up the hottest girls in the room.

Turns out the two girls they were talking to weren't having a good time, were kinda bored, they were just starting to warm em up a bit when the abrupt one of the group got right between them and my friend and told him to leave. He kinda laughed, looked back at her and asked "Are you cockblocking me?" and she replied "Yeah, something like that". Later on she walked off, he talked to em again, and the conversation was fine - they not only had a great time but wanted to hang later (and yeah, they didn't follow through).

The point is that a lot of times if you have a girl like that in the group she really isn't supporting the overall opinion necessarily.
As for if a girl did that to me, pfff, she ain't better than me and I don't care if I'm not some super-stud jock or if I do 'look' like a flaming dork to some people when they want to take it completely strip and ignore my personality out of it. I know what that is, I know what that's about, and if I get that kind of reaction I'll let em know in so many ways that I'm not gonna stand for being objectified and mashed into a mold because I 'look' a certain way.


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24 Nov 2005, 12:25 pm

Sanityisoverrated wrote:
Okay, that still doesn't explain why they have to go to the bathroom in groups.


If I do that, it's because myself and my friend both have to pee at the same time. Anything beyod that is also a mystery to me, but women also fix hair and makeup in the bathroom so maybe they need second opinions. That or for protection from the Ladies' Room Manticores.