I feel grumpy and bitter right now.

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I don't have a degree yet. I have good social skills now(I am a autistic), I'm good looking.



and I cant get married/get a girlfriend because I dont have a REAL job. I just wish I could....just ask a girl out. However, girls don't date guys with jobs that are worse than them so ya.

Once again, I sense a huge overgeneralization, I always get the feeling that women couldn't care less about what I do for a living.

Of course you could always pretend you're in a band...

what job have you got and how far off are you from finishing your degree?

print this out and read it daily, once upon rising and once more upon retiring-

don't despair. you are still young. you WILL have a degree sooner rather than later. you WILL find a job sooner rather than later. you WILL find a congenial mate sooner rather than later. you WILL find happiness sooner rather than later. you ARE going places. dwell on where you are going and not on the present.

Well, I'm female and it has never mattered to me what job a guy has... I make a really good living so I don't expect a guy to make more than me. Most of them who do are stuck up and have unrealistic expectations about what kind of arm candy they want... I'm not arm candy by any means, but I'm bright and attractive and I make a good living. What I look for in a guy has more to do with whether or not he can make me laugh or how smart he is or how he treats me, not how much he makes. Being creative with no money is way better than the ego that so often accompanies a "good job". Confidence goes a long way... and that's something you can't buy.

And just so you know that I'm not just saying this, let me give you specific examples. My fiancé is a full time student and poor as heck. The ring on my finger is a fake, but I adore it because he picked it out himself and took the time to figure out what I'd like (I think it's stupid to buy real diamonds anyway, and never understood their poor dead African diamond miner appeal). It cost about $250 and that was a lot of money to him (about the total that he makes from his work study program in one month at school). We live in a small apartment and have one car between us and mostly use public transportation, and he pays 40% of the rent even though he makes 20% of our combined income in grants and loans from school. He makes me laugh, he treats me well and he loves me and finds ways to show it that don't cost money. For our first date he took me to the student cinema to see Breakfast at Tiffany's (my favorite movie) which was free. He has bought jewelry for me at Goodwill that was lovely and thoughtful (a locket with a cross on it that I put our photo in and reminds me of my faith) and has bought handmade jewelry from my friends, all for less than $10 each. He knows what kind of coffee I like and takes time to make it for me every morning. He takes time to find out what I like and finds ways to bring those things to me without a lot of money. These are the things that matter... not money or a "good job".

A lot of women would gladly be a "sugar momma" to a guy who treats her like a princess and makes her feel good about herself... not every woman is obsessed with what a guy can buy her.