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samtoo
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18 Aug 2010, 9:14 pm

I can't deal with this.
I phone my ex girlfriend and she speaks of the possibility of being with me again.
And now she just says she doesn't want to.
Just kill me now. I'm fed up with this.
I've waited for over 120 days, and nothing else happens in my life either.
"F*** armaggedon, this is hell" Wise words of the band Bad Religion.


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18 Aug 2010, 9:21 pm

Oh for s**t's sake...

Somebody call the WAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHmbulance!

You never even banged her, and you waited 4 freaking months? For what?

Is this like Waiting for Godot? Take what you are could at and channel the aspie obsessive interest into something productive.

This is doing nothing good for you.

Women are flaky and amoral. Get used to it.



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18 Aug 2010, 9:29 pm

Get off my page man, if you aren't going to say anything constructive.
So what if I'm over emotional? Since when was being emotional a stigma? I can't live in a world that f**** me over when I'm in serious pain.
I show the finger to anyone who attacks me here when I'm in a crisis.


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18 Aug 2010, 9:29 pm

Maybe because he actually LOVES her? RICKY5, this may be a concept that you're not familiar with but there are more important things to life than sex. . D:

OP, things will work out. I know what it's like to be depressed over an ex. They're an ex for a reason, as in they weren't meant for you. It may be hard to see that but it's true. I would suggest shifting your focus elsewhere for a while. :)



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18 Aug 2010, 9:39 pm

samtoo wrote:
Get off my page man, if you aren't going to say anything constructive.
So what if I'm over emotional? Since when was being emotional a stigma? I can't live in a world that f**** me over when I'm in serious pain.
I show the finger to anyone who attacks me here when I'm in a crisis.


"It's always darkest before the dawn yadayadayada..."

I'm simply telling you to toughen the f**k up. The world is nasty, stupid, irrational, and unfair (The presidency of George W. Bush, need I say more?)

IMPROVISE, ADAPT, and OVERCOME.

I'm not trying to stigmatize you or any of that crap. I'm saying that you should learn to adapt. The stronger you become, the more attractive (and happier) you will be. I'm trying to help you.

So someone doesn't want to chat over the internet with you anymore. How is that a crisis?



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18 Aug 2010, 10:08 pm

I've been doing so much of that for a long, long time.
Life is not completely unbearable on all fronts, but for Christ sake - she raised my hopes again and dashed them just like that.

I hate the harshness of this world and the flawed apes we are.

Sometimes I just don't feel able to properly live on this planet.


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18 Aug 2010, 10:12 pm

samtoo wrote:
I've been doing so much of that for a long, long time.
Life is not completely unbearable on all fronts, but for Christ sake - she raised my hopes again and dashed them just like that.

I hate the harshness of this world and the flawed apes we are.

Sometimes I just don't feel able to properly live on this planet.


Women are only fun when they charge by the hour...



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18 Aug 2010, 10:19 pm

This song is a great representation of my emotions: -

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9sIlCTDIZ9I[/youtube]


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18 Aug 2010, 10:21 pm

we could all hug you if that helps?
hugs worked for me.



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18 Aug 2010, 10:23 pm

I've been in this state for a while now.
I know that I will be stronger once the depression truly lifts in all its form and I have more opportunities in life. It is a harsh blessing in disguise.


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18 Aug 2010, 10:33 pm

Let me get this straight, this is over a girl on the internet, not a girl you were dating in real life? If that's the case, you need some serious counseling.



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18 Aug 2010, 10:44 pm

Du0d, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the single BEST thing you can do is cut off all contact with this person. PLEASE.

Look, I know Ricky5 can be crass and insensitive, but I have to admit he has a point. I want to call the "waaaaaaaaahmbulance" on you too.

I FORBID you to ever contact this person in any way. FORBID. Yeah, I said it. You need a hobby, like drinking beer and riding on motorcycles and hanging out in bars with mechanical bulls. Don't ever, ever, EEEEEEEEEEEEEvvver allow someone to emasculate you like this again. EVER.



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18 Aug 2010, 10:45 pm

I know I need councilling, but this wasn't just an internet relationship - we did see one another. I was pinning up all my hopes for this to work.
I am a suffering artist type of aspie, who simply cannot control his emotions or needs such emotions to be there so he can form them into good creative work.


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18 Aug 2010, 10:46 pm

Emasculate? That is but a context that is only real if one feels it right?
I don't feel emasculated - more rather beaten up emotionally.


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18 Aug 2010, 10:57 pm

Thank you Erisad and StevieC. :)


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18 Aug 2010, 11:02 pm

Sam, in all seriousness, you just CAN'T trust people that way. You have no control over anyone but yourself. The only people you can trust are those people who are TRUSTWORTHY, and that takes time to build in a relationship.

You never, EVER place all your bets on one woman UNLESS she can prove she's in it for the long haul. I don't know if she's also an aspie or an NT, but I've had a successful relationship with an NT for 10 years now. 10 YEARS. And it took a LOT of searching to find her. She's snoozing away beside me as I type right now. But you know WHY it's worked so well? Because we are "just friends" most of the time. Best friends? Absolutely. Benefits? You bet. But it took a LOOOOOOONG time to make it happen.

Take your time. Meet different women. Give them a fair chance. You sound like an otherwise great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you. But you're pining over a girl who is obviously not worth your time and heartache. Cut yourself loose. That will be the ONLY way you'll get any emotional relief.