Betterclassed wrote:
This question is silly
You are lucky that you can honestly say that. I don't think the question is silly at all.
Betterclassed wrote:
but for the sake of answering, try relating this to when your with your family. You feel loved, at least I should hope so.
In my experience, that is not enough. Let's take for granted there that affection is mutual, and that both sides know it. Still not enough. I think you need to
feel that there is mutual affection, not merely
know it for a fact, there needs to be trust that this will not disappear without warning, and there needs to be something hard to describe that I can only summarize as mutual understanding and inspiration. The inspiration comes into it when you can interpret events in new ways because you expect your friend would enjoy sharing this view. The understanding is needed to have a good chance that your friend really does enjoy this.
I say friend because of the few occasions when I was in love there was only one time I thought we had that sort of connection. I still don't know whether that was only my imagination, because things went wrong so quickly. I've had more luck establishing and maintaining a connection with some friends. The first time I experienced this, I was 22, I still have no idea how it happened, and it hasn't happened often enough since then that I could work out a pattern.
Betterclassed wrote:
The difference is that the person you're dating (for a long and happy enough to call it love) give just that little bit spark of life. Sounds a little silly but what I mean is this person whoever it is makes you feel special without being told that you are.
Doesn't have to involve dating, but I'd say the rest is part of what lightening020 asked about.
17 Aug 2008, 3:20 am
