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philosopherBoi
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14 Aug 2008, 10:46 pm

When I get around hot guys, my mouth does not work. I constantly put my foot in my mouth is there anyway not to do this??



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14 Aug 2008, 11:17 pm

Plan what you want to say, relax, walk up to them and start. I've managed a way of just saying what I need to without thinking. Best to have numerous things in case a subject comes up. Work on the ground and improvise the filling, roll with it, express views.

Concentrate on walking and taking note of anything that can get in your way, if he should look your way, give a smile. When your brain goes on strike, breathe, and say what you want on your next breath to exit.

Breathe in deeply, breathe out saying the most basic of all communication "hi"

I know - it's never easy but it's a start



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15 Aug 2008, 12:42 am

philosopherBoi wrote:
When I get around hot guys, my mouth does not work. I constantly put my foot in my mouth is there anyway not to do this??


Try keeping your feet on the floor. :P


Just relax and try the things Keith mentioned. :)


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15 Aug 2008, 5:12 am

it is probably a combination of shyness adn insecurity, normal for any person at your age.
what do you do?
it is normal for you to do this, and it makes you who you are.
i would'nt want to change you.


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15 Aug 2008, 1:56 pm

Touch the middle finger of each hand lightly to the thigh of the same side of your body. That will keep your hands from flapping around as you speak. When people get nervous their hands tend to fly around and when they notice this it tends to make them feel worse.

Keep your stance relaxed, with feet apart and knees slightly bent. If you lock your knees your blood pressure tends to go up a little bit, possibly increasing heart rate. If nervous enough locking your knees can even lead to fainting.

For conversation keep things very simple. A simple "hi" will do and if they say "hi" back you can comment on something in the room or about the event you are both at, etc. That's if they only say "hi" back. If they dont say "hi" back, they are either shy or not interested. Try someone else another day, or you may have another opportunity with this person, but don't count on it...

Don't build the event up in your head as if everything in life rides on whether this person likes you, because really it doesn't. Good luck.



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15 Aug 2008, 9:57 pm

I totally do the same thing. Even with my boyfriend of two and a half years. Try to think before you say anything.. if you run it through a filter in your head first, you're less likely to babble on crazy-like.

Also, try not to worry too much about if someone likes you a certain way or not.. that's what will get me in trouble most times. Try to be laid back about it and just enjoy someone's company!