A very tough situation

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I am 18, and yet I look significantly younger than am, yet that isn't what is the worst of my problems. I find it hard to find a date because of my hobbies that have even set me and my family apart, my love for learning about many areas of science so much that people usually see me as strange or simply crazy. While their opinions don't matter, it still doesn't help me find friends, let alone a girlfriend.

Since I don't know anyone with my situation, I had to just deal with my situation in my own world. Which wasn't a problem until I began to be interested in dating and making friends. Otherwise I would be studying on my own various sciences such as physics, philosophy, religion, history, zoology, and any science dealing with finding a deeper knowledge of how things are in the world/universe. I also like to draw things like really complex maps(which I am really good at; yet am not as good at drawing simple things), I also like learning languages.

Because of this I have trouble finding a girlfriend. Any advice of where to look? Or how to look? I also have trouble communicating how I feel and can't seem to know if someone is actually interested or not, they don't seem to get that I can't read simple cues that they are hiding the fact that they don't like intellectual conversations. Nor the fact that I can be a little scatter brained.

Try museums & libraries. They're good meeting points and especially in museum there is always something to talk about. Plus the girls you meet there will be more likely have at least some basic interest in knowledge (and nerdy guys) themselves.

Chin up kid. Keep on fighting. One of the greatest things in my life was created by being alone.

I hate to think of you feeling alone or left out in the dating world. So allow me to introduce you to a piece of reality.

Drama is social life. Drama. Strait up. But wait there is more ... being yourself and understanding it take time for God to process everything for you. I have waited 22 years for the clarity I have now. And I will continue to remember everything that I have done or am doing to become better. I want to be the superior man and plan on it.

thanks

science fiction conventions

or anime conventions.

Perhaps online. There are places online where smart people hang out.

There are a lot of smart, 'science nerd' girls out there also, and maybe the 'jocks' pass them by. Your brains are not a liability they are an asset. You just need to meet a wider variety of people, which will come in time.

Also college. Surely you plan to go to university. You will meet a lot of brainy women there. Good luck. (Just hang in there is what I'm saying, you are still so young, it will happen.)

I disagree. The intelligence of the average person isn't very high, and they don't appreciate it when someone is smarter than they are (unless he makes a lot of money.) Also, it's important to have someone who you can connect with on an intellectual level, and that's hard to find if you have above-average intelligence.

I disagree it's a liability, still. There are places which attract people of above-average intelligence. Even Mensans are one in 50 people. In a city of any size that's a high number of potential mates to choose from.

Also why would you want to be with someone you couldn't speak at any length with? So he wouldn't want to be with anyone less intelligent anyway, right?

Being smarter is an asset in many ways and it is not a liability because people of equal or higher intelligence can be found.

OK, just to clear something up, I think that intelligence is definitely an asset in general... but when it comes to finding people you can connect with, it's not as easy as you think. That's why a lot of intelligent people are loners. If you want intellectual companionship, you really have to search for it.

I can agree with that, Cyberman. I do agree with it actually.

And yes, anyone who's had that puzzled look leveled at them when they haven't even been conversing at the top of their ability knows that pang of loneliness or of feeling alien.