The Female Conspiracy

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Women have conspired against me.

That is all I can conclude from the succession of different women who have taken it upon themselves to just mess with me. Today it happened again. This time the woman initiated conversation, and I obliged. She was attractive but a few years older. Nevertheless, I was in a desirous mood and open to a possible advance. The conversation began when she commented on how she liked my swimming, and I asked her if she swam much. We talked awhile, and she started going on about some absolutely ridiculous story about her background that she kept trying to pass off as her lifestyle and thus unassailable. Perhaps my mistake was to too quickly make clear my interest, which is like showing one's hand in poker. She had what she wanted (validation of attraction), so all she had left was to mess with me. Stupid.

The fact that so many women have decided to mess with me leads me to conclude that many women have gotten together and decided to collectively mess with me, or there is something about me or something that I am doing that induces many women to mess with me (a metaphorical kick-me sign).

Does anyone have any ideas of why this is happening?

Maybe you look different to how/who you are. Maybe you have a physical appearance/style( clothing and/or hair and/or gestures)/carriage/posture which suggests somebody unlike you. Maybe you are sending out signals appropriate for a "someone else".

So as soon as a woman has had a few words with you she discovers that and moves on.

I think it may well be an aspie thing, to send out a set of signals which although perfectly "correct" are actually not one's own, but copied laboriously off a series of templates, fantasy and real life ones, and which give misleading signals about who one is.

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Girlfriends are like bank loans. You are more likely to get one if you appear to not need one...

Give me a break. It appears you are not interested in a woman as a friend or just getting to know her; you just want to get laid.
That type of thinking is repellent to women.
It is not surprising they moved on.

Everytime a woman chooses to initiate conversation with a man does not mean they're necessarily attracted to them or interested in them.

Some just like to talk.

She liked your swimming, she stated as much...maybe she simply wished she could swim as well as you do.

I don't know. I'm female, and I've gotten the same sort of reactions from guys. Seriously, they seem interested, talk a little, then dissappear.
Something about me seems to just say "get out while you can" or something.

People typically find me quite strange until they get used to me.

You don't have to "play" anything that isn't you. Ninety percent of communication is subconscious and non-verbal, if either person subconsciously senses it's not what they're looking for at the moment, there is little that any words are going to to to change the situation. Is it possible that

I used to put attractive women on the "love pedestal" thinking that they wanted some perfect relationship and were above just being horny and wanting to get laid like the rest of us. It's all timing, we all want love and we all lust after something, just at different times. If you want to get laid, don't pretend you're looking for the love of your life. There are just as many women that want a casual bang as there are guys and just because a woman looks good doesn't mean she doesn't have sexual thoughts every bit as nasty and deviant as your own.

I don't personally seek relationships just to be with someone so I'm not by myself. The only attraction I have to women is physical and sexual so for me trying to pretend I want something else is just a lame see through act that insults everyones intelligence.

I am looking for love, but I realize that the love I lack is a result of a separation within myself and to experience it I need to make myself whole again. This isn't something you can find outside of yourself because there is no place outside of yourself and you can't find something in a place that doesn't exist.