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13 Oct 2008, 5:07 am

..for ASer's , even though it will never be documented.

unplanned pregnancy & single households.........

good thing..........if One of us actually does get to marriage, its not going to be with some stupid hay out of a haystack NT. Its going to be a very loyal couragous person.

What im saying is we might not be compatible with 95% of the opposite sex, but when we do find that 5 % needle in the haystack, aren't we going to have more substance on average than NT-NT relationships?

Im trying to think positive. and there is plenty of negative things to focus on, but this seems to be a fine point



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13 Oct 2008, 7:23 am

hmm I hate to disagree on such a positive point :cry: ... but I feel I must. Any relationship can break up for any number of reasons, and I don't think an NT/NT relationship is less meaningful than an AS relationship.

But, on the upside, I think that an AS/NT or AS/AS relationship would be way more interesting, different, and perhaps the connection would be deeper (although this hurts more if it breaks, and is harder to get over, as I will attest to - when I fall in unrequited love, it takes me years to get over that one person) than an NT/NT relationship because the aspie's partner would become one of the aspie's obsessions. If the relationship works out or not, even if both the relationships are the same length, I believe that the AS relationship will traverse plains and universes and unique and special connections that that NT/NT relationship could not even comprehend. :D

I'm personally glad I am an aspie and I can feel feelings so strong for another person I've never even kissed, even if I cry almost every night for years because they don't love me back in the same way.

I still cry, sometimes. I know that never being able to be with this guy who I knew I could marry and love for the rest of my life, has left a permanent scar on my heart.

But that's the beautiful thing about being an aspie.


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13 Oct 2008, 10:24 am

sunshower wrote:
I'm personally glad I am an aspie and I can feel feelings so strong for another person I've never even kissed, even if I cry almost every night for years because they don't love me back in the same way.

I still cry, sometimes. I know that never being able to be with this guy who I knew I could marry and love for the rest of my life, has left a permanent scar on my heart.

But that's the beautiful thing about being an aspie.


That doesn't just happen to Aspie's, it happens to NT's too. It happens to me. I cry a lot for someone who can't love me back and yet I can't walk away. It takes me a year or more to get over someone.


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13 Oct 2008, 11:04 am

Butterflair wrote:
sunshower wrote:
I'm personally glad I am an aspie and I can feel feelings so strong for another person I've never even kissed, even if I cry almost every night for years because they don't love me back in the same way.

I still cry, sometimes. I know that never being able to be with this guy who I knew I could marry and love for the rest of my life, has left a permanent scar on my heart.

But that's the beautiful thing about being an aspie.


That doesn't just happen to Aspie's, it happens to NT's too. It happens to me. I cry a lot for someone who can't love me back and yet I can't walk away. It takes me a year or more to get over someone.


Hmm.. But I can be a bit extreme because of my tendency to obsess. Say, up to 9 years I'm talking about, the first one, though the guy i felt most for (the aforementioned one) is four years and counting (though slowly starting to heal now, give me one more year probably).

Strangely enough, my bf didn't make me feel that after our relationship ended, which is probably why (half due to subconscious feeling) I broke it off with him. :cry:


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13 Oct 2008, 1:39 pm

lightening020 wrote:
..for ASer's , even though it will never be documented.

unplanned pregnancy & single households.........

good thing..........if One of us actually does get to marriage, its not going to be with some stupid hay out of a haystack NT. Its going to be a very loyal couragous person.

What im saying is we might not be compatible with 95% of the opposite sex, but when we do find that 5 % needle in the haystack, aren't we going to have more substance on average than NT-NT relationships?

Im trying to think positive. and there is plenty of negative things to focus on, but this seems to be a fine point


Actually I would have to disagree, both male and females Aspies tend to be naive and more prone to abuse as well as having issues with keeping relationships. Anyone can have an unplanned pregnancy... we're human. And as far as single households, I know for sure I'm not the only single AS mom around.



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13 Oct 2008, 3:17 pm

I think as people are pretty loyal. Atleast from my experiences. I try to seek out as people for dating but maybe thats just me.


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