Relationship in crisis... HELP!! !

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Where to begin? My girlfriend and I shared six great years together, but the over the past two we have been drifting apart. I've realized recently that most of our problems have been due to my AS. She comes on to me, I can't tell anymore. She's upset with me, I can barely read it anymore unless she makes it more obvious. She says that I try to emotionally manipulate her, but I really don't mean to. I just don't know how she feels. We used to have a very happy, loving, comfortable relationship, and that just makes this suck all the more. She's the most beautiful person I know and I love her to no end. But, for this reason, I'm thinking of breaking it off for her sake. She doesn't deserve this kind of unresponsiveness or to be stuck in an unhappy situation any longer than she already has. I used to think she was cold, but I just couldn't pick up the truth.

Also, I want to talk to her about my AS, but she won't let me. I think she thinks that I'm trying to make her feel bad (she has a bad history with manipulative people), but I just want her to understand why I am the way that I am. I'm also still trying to come to terms with what this syndrome means, how bad it is (or getting- another thread), and I've been chronically depressed the past year-and-a-half (which may be making the AS symptoms worse?).

This isn't a pity thread (I know I'll get over this eventually and things will be okay), but I'm almost at my wit's end and second-guessing everything I do now. I really don't want to make the wrong decision. Is this the right thing to do, or am I just being too impulsive? How do I break this to her without her thinking I'm trying something?

this isnt an easy thing for anyone, but you have to do what you think is right, and follow your instincts. of course you dont want tp hurt her feelings , but you shouldnt have to be with someone who doesnt want to communicate about important things, and sombody who doesnt want to understand your condition.its not your fault. if you think you can work things out in an effictive way and make things right then good for you, but if you cant reconcile things , then its best to move and and try to stay friends.

Ahh dear... have you spoken to her about it? Sounds like you guys need a break: the more stressed you get, the more trouble you will have picking up her emotional signals.