Great personality, but....

Post Reply New Topic

What do you do if you really like someone's personality but just don't find them at all physically attractive?

That's not the exact problem I'm having, but I'm curious what your reactions would be.

Last edited by Veresae on 01 Sep 2008, 3:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

For me, finding someone attractive on the "inside" eventually leads to finding them attractive physically. I'd want to get to know them better first, which would help the process. If for some reason I just can't find them physically attractive it just won't work for me.

I have that problem,
but since she doesnt seem to be madly pursuing me,
that's why you have close friends.

"FRIEND ZONE"! !! Hey, it's only fair, because that's exactly what they do to us...

I'd want to spend as much time around them regardless. Maybe in my case, that is the same thing as the "friend zone," but given that that is the closest to "love" I understand, I don't have to be attracted to them physically to just be around and there for someone, understand them and care about and for them.

Sums it up pretty damn well. Some people have grown on me; with others, the lack of physical chemistry proved to be a fatal flaw to any sort of relationship beyond being friends... which is strange, because based on my history, the only common elements are personality related, not physical in nature. Curious.


M.

Yeah, most of the similarities in the guys I've dated, and actually done well with anyway, are connected to their personalities. Some may look a little similar but there's a huge variance in height, weight, eye and hair color, everything. So I can't say I have a "look" that I specifically like.. though maybe dressed nicely(as in, not completely sloppy) is one thing I'd say I really need in a guy's outer appearance!

Just get a girl with the ideal personality and scoop out her brain and place it into the body of your choice.

Not sure...if i fall for someones personality i fall for the whole package
because its a part of it, whats inside is very important to me, the inside
makes me fall for the outside.

If you're not attracted to them, you're not attracted to them. You can't just force it, if it's platonic it's platonic and there's no sense leading them on about it. If you think there's a chance, you may as well give it a go, though, I guess.

I am still confused by the whole personality concept.

I see what you mean, but on the other hand, a very bad personality can make even a beauty queen appear very ugly, and a very attractive personality can make an average person become very attractive.

Haven't looked through the threads but I usually become good friends with them.

How not to set up a blind date:

---

ME: "She has a great personality."

HE: "That ugly, huh?"

---

ME: "He has a great personality."

SHE: "So he's gay, right?"

If that were the case I would be friends with them and spend time around them but if they were to make a pass I would
back off, only for a short while though. If they started getting sexual I say something like "Im just not ready for that yet.....".
I hate to seem shallow and superficial but if there's going to be any kind of sexual relationship the physical attraction has gotta be there.



Hmmm................ Thats very sweet, but Im very skeptical that you or anyone else who says this is being totally honest. Looks DO matter; no matter how trite and trivial they may be we humans are wired to notice them and pass judgement on them.

Last edited by Haliphron on 01 Sep 2008, 11:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Beauty is only skin deep. When I was in school I always had crushes on girls everyone else said was ugly. I thought they were very attractive but the thing I loved most about them was their personalities.