Tell me girls, what do you want in a guy?

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This is for all the autistic girls on this wrongplanet.net website. This question is very basic and I know you will be willing to answer it quite readily, so here goes "what things do you find attractive about guys you would like to date and what kinds of qualities/traits would you want from these guys to have". As my name implies, I am a malcontent, someone chronically dissatisfied with certain things in life. One of these things is love/romance, but I will put aside my negative prejudice against it aside to hear what you girls have to say. So have at it!

Honesty I think is pretty important for most people, but not so honest that you come acroos as rude
Generosity, there's nothing worse than someone that won't even by you a drink!
Kind
Try and be understanding

I think they're the most important traits (well they are for me anyway)

The qualities I look for in a guy are
tollerance
similar politics
kind
honerable
joint respect and admiration
I definately would not date someone who appeared to hate or despise women.

Intelligence. That's key. I want someone with whom I can have a decent conversation. A sense of humor and quirkiness. Someone who is passionate and interested in something--I get so bored by people who don't do or know anything and who have no intellectual curiosity... and that's pretty much it. Not a terrible lot, I don't think.

They have to be different, stand out from the crowd.
they have to be funny, so we wont get bored
they have to be sensitive sometimes, macho others
and although it goes against the male psychology, we all want a man that will listen to us when he's tired!
also, broad shoulders, narrow waist and tight bum never fail to impress us

Someone funny, interesting and attractive (good hugs is also a bonus)
Someone who can give me the freedom to be me...

I like quite a bit of the qualities that constantly get discouraged on this board.... And some others, of course. The person I'm looking for is...

-Vulnerable and sensitive, rather than macho and dominant.
-Understanding of my sensory issues - namely not overly physical or insistent on contact that crosses my boundaries (I'm asexual-romantic - want love, cuddles and hugs are good, but no sex please!). Also doesn't force me to be in other situations where I'm uncomfortable beyond what is necessary.
-Intelligent and analytical but not arrogant - willing to discuss, but not show off.
-Creative, or at least open-minded and interested enough to listen to my strange ideas and stories without telling me to shut up. Hopefully add onto those silly thoughts, too.
-Would much rather have pets than children.
-Not shallow, and will not try to make me be other than I am as long as I am nice and understanding towards him as well.

You all forgot, "Generous with his wealth, time, attention, and wealth."

^^ Then you are an exception.

Fnord, you are not a woman, nor have you spoken to all women to get their opinion on the matter. Until you ARE a woman, you can say nothing on what women want. Even then, you can't generalize it. People are much too diverse.

I'd say I want someone funny, that can make me feel good(about myself or in general, doesn't matter).
Someone who I find attractive, though that varies in so many ways I couldn't give you a list of traits I 'require'.
Someone who's not completely poor - I hate fighting about money. This doesn't mean he needs to spend it on me, just that he needs enough to care for himself.
And someone who can be romantic once in awhile, and let me do the same for him.