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Alright, I have this friend, and I want to be more than just friends with her..but I am not sure how to go about it.

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Finally, if I do have a chance in hell, how do I go about asking her if she wants to be more than friends? Whats the best possible way to do this?

Arg, its just frustrating, and I am worried I'd be kinda upset if she said no...I have had so few female friends my age in my life, and fewer attractive as this one.

Alright, any suggestions you guys can give me would be awesome.

Last edited by Davius on 26 Nov 2005, 7:29 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I would ask her if she wants to do something with you, like go to a movie, hang out at your place or if you have common interests, do something that relates to that. Just take a deep breath and don't stress out too much about it.

Yeah, prob is we've hung out in this matter, and she has with other guys. She actually has alot of other male friends (more competition for me ) and I don't think this sort of invitation she'd interpret as a date, rather just two friends hanging out..

Any more opinions on my situation, anyone?

Again, I have no advice, but I can relate. The problem is, most NTs can barely figure out women, so how are we supposed to figure them out.

In high school, I was surrounded by females, many of which I considered friends, and many I was attracted to, but never had the slightest clue how to bring the subject of a relationship up. Advice from NTs is prett useless, they just say I am thinking too much and that it will just happen naturally. Yeah, right.

My big problem now is that I am out of school and there are almost no women at my work place (and the one or two there are only about 30 years my senior). I rarely ever have the opportunity to start a simple friendship with someone of either sex, so the chance of meeting someone to have a romantic relationship with seems pretty unlikely.

So, I guess I would say that you should feel fortunate to even have a girl to be friends with. I don't know, maybe you should just be 100% straight forward. Maybe just say, "Would you like to be my girlfriend" Of course, I have given myself this advice many times and never acted on it. But you should act on it when you have the oppotunity if you don't want to end up in my situation.

Geez, when you put it that way...I'm a little worried. I should probably just act soon. Just ask her straightforward. Its gonna be hard, but I should do it. Thanks for the advice. If she turns me down, I'll be pretty disappointed, but I'll just have to move on.

wow does this sound like the story of my life! my best friend right now is a girl. we go to a lot of places together, but she also has other friends who she treats the same way and sometimes doesnt invite me, or forgets that she invited me before. sometimes it seemed like she had some kind of affection toward me, and other times it seemed like she didnt even care. ive had feelings on and off for her and i still do from time to time. we always go to concerts together, probably more than she does with anyone else. hell, we even stayed in a hotel together after one concert. im just not so sure if she would be willing to go farther than a relationship, and i wouldnt want to ruin our friendship.

I can't begin to tell you guys how much time I've wasted on "freindships" with women I was attarcted to. I finally realized life is way too short and determined not to waste another minute. Either I make a move, or move on. Within 18 months, I met the woman I married. True story.

Alright, I am definately going to act on it soon, by next week for sure.

But out of curiousity, I am wondering where do you think I probably stand with her at this point, and what my chances are? Some female input would be GREATLY appreciated. I want to know what the my chances of success are going to be going into this.