(Dating Sites) How do you make yourself seem interesting?

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I have signed up on and looked at a few dating sites and the problem I come across is filling out my personal description. How much information should I put about stuff like AS and Social Anxiety issues? Also, how do I make an interesting description? How do those of you that use these sites come up with interesting descriptions about yourselves? Are there anythings to avoid putting in my description that might not seem obvious?

One other question. Is there a minimum level of functionality that a person should have before they should even bother with dating sites. In other words, do you think it is a waste of time for someone with severe social issues and lack of experience, and low income to even bother with dating, or dating sites? I think it is probably a bad idea for me personally and that it will lead to much humiliation but at the same time I am tired of being alone and dating sites are one option available to me, even if nothing ever comes of it. It is fairly easy for me to interact with people by text and very little of my anxiety comes through beyond making the first communication.

Any opinions/stories/advice about using dating sites would be appreciated.

My feelings are honesty is the best policy. When I last used a dating site I stated that I had Asperger Syndrome and I was interested in meeting women who were also on the spectrum. My rationale being that I probably wouldn't get alot of responses but the ones I would get I would have more in common with them.

I don't do dating sites anymore. I would mention it in my profile, anyone with sense can look it up, just remember to mention your strengths. You are advertising yourself. Mention that it means you have less chance to cheat on them

NT women would probably be turned off by someone stating that they have AS in their personal description. I have met some very accepting NTs but viewing things from a long-term perspective I still think an Aspie man would have more in common with an Aspie woman.

Don't put anything about AS, but maybe say you are and introverted and ecentric. You can give them more personal infomation when you get to know them better.

Arbie you have a great sense of humour exploit that to the max, make your profile funny.

Go for it.

Yeah that is another good idea having things to respond to. You could ask some random question in your profile. Like say "tell me what flavoured ice cream you like?" Say that you think ice cream flavour is very important in a relationship.

They should hopefully find it funny and then they might message you their favorite ice cream flavour. For example.. You might be able to think of something better.

Stick to the positive and leave the negative out, this is needed to avoid coming across as a looser.

Some guys come across as creepy and bitter and it is off putting as one is trying to avoid the crazy stalkers lol. So try and appear non threatening and positive.

make sure you put your interests and what makes you happy.

My good friend told me that "its better to be hated for what you are, rather than loved for what you are not" and this applies strongly to online dating.

I think you will do fine as you have a really nice character and are very beautiful.

-Pick only your hottest pics and discard the bad ones.
-Put pics you took with your friends or in social event , that will show that you are sociable
-Put pics of you that show your car and your house at the background but don't put pics that only show your car and house.
-Put pics of you doing some physical activities
-Put cliché words in your description : self-confident, loyal , serious , funny....


or

Change your sex to female and make a profile in a lesbian dating service.

I would steer clear of putting "Hi" or "Hello" as an initial message subject.