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i just got asked out by this guy. he was in my english class last year and he's just aboutt he funniest person i know.

the thing is, i don't know if i, you know... like him back.

maybe i do actually, i just don't know

any input people?

Hm, do you often have this sort of trouble deciding whether you like a guy? I don't have that trouble with girls, so that's why I ask. (Of course, I'm a guy. Could be a difference of the sexes.)

If not, then you might just be experiencing the "I pity you and can't say no" reflex. Aspies have more than their moiety of this reflex, and it causes no end of trouble because we say "maybe" or "yes..." when we should say "no".

What say you?

Go out with him, it's not like he's making a marriage proposal.

Hey, if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to...

The thing is... you don't know if you like him, or do you just plain not like him?

If you're just not sure about it, but trust him to respect your boundaries and such, then I say go for it

For now, just tell him that you are very flattered, but you need time to think about it.

Yeah, it's hard to like people romantically. Right now, I know no one around here who I have any kind of strong attraction towards. It's a bit depressing. If someone's asked you out and you don't dislike them, you might as well give it a try. The whole point of dating and going out is to get to know them so that you can develop feelings of attraction or let it come to an end.

If you don't DISlike him, I'd say go on the date and see how you feel about it afterward. You can always say you didn't feel a spark of some such s**t.

I didn't say she had to, she said she was unsure if she liked the guy, so going out on a date is a good way to define her feelings.

Keep good boundaries,
Honor your intuition,
Don't let fear stop you from doing something you otherwise would do.

If he is a decent chap, at the very least, you will have made a new friend.

Sounds like he makes you laugh.
That could be the start of a good night out.
Could even be better then staying at home and typing in the WP forums.
Which for me would be a pretty big accomplishment.

I often get really stressed in your situation because it feels like a big comittment. In actual fact, it's just a date, and it's apparently ok to date guys and for it not to mean any big attachment. If I were you, I would go on a date, enjoy yourself, and see what comes of it: dating is often less about loving someone and marking time with them and more about getting to know and possibly like them.

i advise you to shimmy on down the toepath.

If you like him, date him. If you don't fancy him, then decline his offer.

Simple.

If you feel comfortable with him, go on a date with him; what have you got to lose? As a girl going out with a guy, you might even get a free meal out of it. However, if you're not sure you like him, at least show him you have integrity: offer to pay your share, so he'll respect you for not using him. As the for the activity, do something not overtly romantic, like a game of mini-golf, a dance lesson, or a museum. In the end, you'll have a fun night, or at least a tolerable one.

You are just if You want to just going on a date You really don't have to like him or even dislike him. It could be a good experience for the future for You either way.

i guess i'll take him up on that first date...

Good decision! Have fun.