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Spokane_Girl

28 Sep 2008, 11:17 pm

My boyfriend and I were talking and it lead to the topic about my first boyfriend I had. I was telling him a funny story about how I told him I was thinking about breaking up with him and he was cool about it. He said "If we break up, we break up." Then one day I break up with him and he is all sad and depressed. What the heck, he was all cool about breaking up and then he was all sad about it after it happened? My boyfriend said he didn't think I was actually going to do it.

I figured either he was bluffing or he didn't realize how hard it was going to be if it happens. At the time I took it literal because I thought he be cool about it if I broke up with him. Either he really did mean it (so that would mean I wasn't being literal) but just didn't realize it would make him sad until it actually happened.


What do you guys think?



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28 Sep 2008, 11:44 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
My boyfriend and I were talking and it lead to the topic about my first boyfriend I had. I was telling him a funny story about how I told him I was thinking about breaking up with him and he was cool about it. He said "If we break up, we break up." Then one day I break up with him and he is all sad and depressed. What the heck, he was all cool about breaking up and then he was all sad about it after it happened? My boyfriend said he didn't think I was actually going to do it.

I figured either he was bluffing or he didn't realize how hard it was going to be if it happens. At the time I took it literal because I thought he be cool about it if I broke up with him. Either he really did mean it (so that would mean I wasn't being literal) but just didn't realize it would make him sad until it actually happened.


What do you guys think?


I think he was trying to be manly and covered up his feelings when it was discussed.
When it happened, he realized how much he would miss you.
I kind of dumped a guy last week. He emailed me, but I said don't email me again.
He wants to know why he is not my type, since his relationships always fail.
Was I too harsh?



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28 Sep 2008, 11:46 pm

WonderWomen wrote:
I kind of dumped a guy last week. He emailed me, but I said don't email me again.
He wants to know why he is not my type, since his relationships always fail.
Was I too harsh?


Not too harsh, but I do think you owe him an explanation (if one was not given already). It could be as simple as "I don't find you attractive" so long as you state the reasons why you think so. But an explanation IS in order.



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29 Sep 2008, 4:50 am

WonderWomen wrote:
I kind of dumped a guy last week. He emailed me, but I said don't email me again.
He wants to know why he is not my type, since his relationships always fail.
Was I too harsh?


Not really harsh but if you tell him a little on why it was not working for you, he may get some insight into why his reltionships always fail and start changing how he deals with that.



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29 Sep 2008, 5:13 am

Wonderwoman is a troll, check her/his posts.



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29 Sep 2008, 6:05 am

WonderWomen wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
My boyfriend and I were talking and it lead to the topic about my first boyfriend I had. I was telling him a funny story about how I told him I was thinking about breaking up with him and he was cool about it. He said "If we break up, we break up." Then one day I break up with him and he is all sad and depressed. What the heck, he was all cool about breaking up and then he was all sad about it after it happened? My boyfriend said he didn't think I was actually going to do it.

I figured either he was bluffing or he didn't realize how hard it was going to be if it happens. At the time I took it literal because I thought he be cool about it if I broke up with him. Either he really did mean it (so that would mean I wasn't being literal) but just didn't realize it would make him sad until it actually happened.


What do you guys think?


I think he was trying to be manly and covered up his feelings when it was discussed.
When it happened, he realized how much he would miss you.
I kind of dumped a guy last week. He emailed me, but I said don't email me again.
He wants to know why he is not my type, since his relationships always fail.
Was I too harsh?


It was harsh and it was kinda of direspect, you own him a explanation and be bluntly honest about it...don't be chicken.



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29 Sep 2008, 6:27 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
My boyfriend and I were talking and it lead to the topic about my first boyfriend I had. I was telling him a funny story about how I told him I was thinking about breaking up with him and he was cool about it. He said "If we break up, we break up." Then one day I break up with him and he is all sad and depressed. What the heck, he was all cool about breaking up and then he was all sad about it after it happened? My boyfriend said he didn't think I was actually going to do it.

I figured either he was bluffing or he didn't realize how hard it was going to be if it happens. At the time I took it literal because I thought he be cool about it if I broke up with him. Either he really did mean it (so that would mean I wasn't being literal) but just didn't realize it would make him sad until it actually happened.


What do you guys think?


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29 Sep 2008, 6:50 am

Saffy wrote:
Wonderwoman is a troll, check her/his posts.

Actually it is wonder Wonderwomen obviously an attempt to descredit Wonderwoman



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29 Sep 2008, 7:06 am

0_equals_true wrote:
Saffy wrote:
Wonderwoman is a troll, check her/his posts.

Actually it is wonder Wonderwomen obviously an attempt to descredit Wonderwoman


How the hell did I miss that?



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29 Sep 2008, 7:06 am

Because we were supposed to.



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29 Sep 2008, 8:51 am

ToadOfStееl is not the same as ToadOfSteel :wink:



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29 Sep 2008, 9:14 am

0_equals_true wrote:
ToadOfStееl is not the same as ToadOfSteel :wink:


Right... and 0 = true...



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29 Sep 2008, 9:20 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
0_equals_true wrote:
ToadOfStееl is not the same as ToadOfSteel :wink:


Right... and 0 = true...

You are not wrong there \x0



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29 Sep 2008, 9:30 am

Saffy wrote:
Wonderwoman is a troll, check her/his posts.



Wonderwomen is also princess_1989 who just recently left wrongplanet because everyone was calling her out for trolling in the haven. And if you look above my post here, you'll see that 2 of princesses sock puppets have already replied in this thread.



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29 Sep 2008, 10:06 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
My boyfriend and I were talking and it lead to the topic about my first boyfriend I had. I was telling him a funny story about how I told him I was thinking about breaking up with him and he was cool about it. He said "If we break up, we break up." Then one day I break up with him and he is all sad and depressed. What the heck, he was all cool about breaking up and then he was all sad about it after it happened? My boyfriend said he didn't think I was actually going to do it.

I figured either he was bluffing or he didn't realize how hard it was going to be if it happens. At the time I took it literal because I thought he be cool about it if I broke up with him. Either he really did mean it (so that would mean I wasn't being literal) but just didn't realize it would make him sad until it actually happened.


What do you guys think?


This is a bit confusing.


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29 Sep 2008, 10:09 am

d00d wrote:
Saffy wrote:
Wonderwoman is a troll, check her/his posts.



Wonderwomen is also princess_1989 who just recently left wrongplanet because everyone was calling her out for trolling in the haven. And if you look above my post here, you'll see that 2 of princesses sock puppets have already replied in this thread.

Please report suspected sockpuppettry to me by PM. Thanks.


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